Obaa Yaa
She says the girl is not my child
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My name is Amos, I am not married but have one child who I cater for. Just recently when I sent my child weekly money for her upkeep, her mother asked me not to bother.
She said that the child was not mine and that she was prepared to pay for everything I have spent on them.
Obaa Yaa, life around me now is hell. I can’t come to terms with what she is telling me after taking care of my child for six years.
Obaa Yaa, what can make a woman behave like this? What should do?
Amos,
Kwahu.
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Dear Amos,
I am really sorry for you. However, it is good that this woman is saying something you have not investigated and know for certainty if the child is yours or not. That will keep your mind at rest.
Take a lawyer and send the matter to court. The court will most certainly order a paternity test where you can know your stand as to the parentage of this girl.
If she is yours, you can take legal steps to claim her from the dishonest mother. If it is proved that she is not your child, then you can make your lawyer prepare a bill for the woman to reimburse you for all you have spent on the child.
Obaa Yaa
He squats like a girl to urinate
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a single parent trying to raise my three children – two girls and a boy aged six, five and two.
I am not worried about money to take care for them because I am gainfully employed. The problem is that my little boy has not been urinating in the manner males do.
He has been squatting like how females do. I don’t know how to teach him since he does not allow me.
How do I handle such a situation?
Sandra, Sunyani.
Dear Freda,
Your boy is simply imitating his sisters and he is used to squatting while urinating.
This is not an issue you should be worried about. Continue to educate him that boys don’t squat; rather they stand and urinate.
When he grows up and sees his peers standing up to urinate, he’d learn to do the same.
Don’t get worried. Little kids change over time.
Obaa Yaa
Is he cheating on me?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My husband and I have been together for six years now. Recently when he came from town I asked him for money to buy something.
He directed me to bring the trousers but he later changed his mind and reached for the trousers himself.
Interestingly, I got the trousers first and when I removed his wallet, it came out together with a condom.
I asked him what he was doing with the condom because we don’t use it at home.
He told me to stop worrying him about it and never answered the question.
Esi Atta,
Krobo.
Dear Esi,
I AM afraid your husband might be cheating on you, but be thankful that he always has a condom in hand.
Try and discuss your fears with him and give him more attention.
Maybe he is not getting enough satisfaction at home and wants to go a bit extra-marital.
I hope you would not be too pissed off though. Take it cool, discuss the problem, and I believe that once he has been exposed, he would take steps to change.
But as I stated earlier, be thankful that he is a fan of condoms.
