Obaa Yaa
Abortion made me lose interest in her
Dear ObaaYaa,
I find it interesting reading your column and wish to commend you for the able manner you have responded to letters sent to you.
I am deeply in love with a pretty lady and she also loves me just as l do. We are both happy and wish to get married and live happily. My friends are always happy when they see us together and support our decision to marry.
It was interesting to see her always around to lend her support in times of difficulties, a gesture l tried to reciprocate. Time without number, we did not hesitate to reaffirm our love for each other.
We were taken by surprise and embarrassed when she got pregnant. Since we were not ready for a child then, l told her to take it easy and keep the pregnancy as we try the best way to handle the problem.
l cited instances of ladies who had caused abortion and could not conceive again. I explained to her that despite the initial mistake we made, she should keep it and that l would not like to be associated with an abortion. Despite my explanation, she still aborted the pregnancy.
Her behaviour has made me lose interest in her and l have planned not to marry her.
Should l maintain my stand?
Kodzo, Accra.
Dear Kodzo,
This paper would like to thank you for always reading this column to enrich your knowledge and stay calm.
Reading this column constantly will provide you the opportunity to learn from the numerous problems that confront others and the solutions provided to guide them.
You have espoused the good qualities this lady possessed, and from your description she would be a good wife.
Why don’t you depend on the love you have for each other, forgive her for defying your orders and let bygones be bygones?
Obaa Yaa
My boss is tormenting me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I have worked in a private environment in Accra for 10 years now. People talk about how stressful it is to work in a private sector but I did not believe it till I had my fair share of experience working with my new boss.
Recently, our boss was transferred and was replaced by a new boss.
In fact, I am finding it difficult to work with him.
Looking at my age, he talks to me like am a small boy and relates to me like a teacher and his pupil.
Sometimes, I feel like hitting him but it is against the rules of our company.
I currently do not have another employment opportunity. What can I do? I can’t cope with his behaviour anymore.
Joe Boy,
Ashiaman.
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Dear Joe Boy,
I am afraid you’d have to cope with your boss for the meantime. Learn to live with the ‘devil’ until you find a way about it.
Just live up to your responsibility; perform your functions to the best of your knowledge and do not misbehave towards him.
If he sees that you are competent, he would begin to respect you. Remember that respect is earned not demanded.
Obaa Yaa
I am in a state of dilemma
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My name is Owusu and I am 35- years -old while my wife is 30 years. We have been married for five years but been together for seven years. We have two children together and they are doing so well in their academics.
My company had a conference at a hotel in Kumasi and four of us from my department were selected to represent the company.
During lunch, I decided to take a stroll and enjoy the scenery around the hotel since it’s my first time there.
As I strolled around, I was shocked to see my wife step out of a car with a young man. They started walking towards the reception of the hotel. The man placed his arms around her waist and they seemed to be enjoying each other’s company.
I froze and felt bad. I wanted to shout and approach them but when I opened my mouth, no words came out and my feet were too heavy to drag. I just watched them in awe as they checked in at the reception and disappeared from my sight.
I am in my mother’s house now, I do not know how I will face her if I eventually go home. I told her my mom needs help with a few things at the house so I will lend a helping hand and also sleep over. I haven’t told anyone but my mom suspects that something is wrong.
I am down right now, my marriage and home seem to be coming to an end. Please what should I do?
Sakyi, Adenta.
Dear Sakyi,
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I understand how you feel and I plead with you to continue to be patient with your wife.
Please try and go home to have a word with her concerning the incident you saw.
Give her the benefit of doubt to explain what she was exactly doing there at that time with the man.
I am pleading with you to give her a second chance but most importantly, kindly inform her parents about it to talk to her.
You can seek the help of a professional counselor and go for therapies with her.
However, if you are not comfortable staying with her, please part ways with her peacefully. You can co-parent your daughter.
