Obaa Yaa
Can women be trusted?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young man who is trying to find my true bearing in life and equally battling with a relationship issue.
I am of the view that despite the challenges that confront man, life must be lived to its fullest. I have been single for the past six years after my first girlfriend broke my heart.
Though I did all I could to make her feel what true happiness was, she succeeded in breaking my heart by leaving me for a rich man in our community.
The trust I had in my lady coupled with the pain I endured as a result of the break up has made it impossible for me to propose to another lady.
My disappointment is gradually giving way since I am a bit skeptical about entering a new relationship due to my past experience.
I am not enthused about the ladies around me who appear to be loving because I feel they could also treat me like my previous lover.
Please how do I know if one of these ladies would be the right person to marry?
Newton, Spintex-Accra.
Dear Newton,
I wish to assure you that women can be trusted and that you cannot judge all women by the character of one woman.
You must stop crying over spilt milk now that your former lady has a lover. Additionally, your action is being guided by the adage which says “Once bitten twice shy.”
It is unfortunate that your past experience in a relationship is having a serious effect on your imagination and this is preventing you from taking the next step in your relationship.
Your first experience should not cloud your imagination about the positive side of life. However, you must take inspiration from another adage which says “If you fail to take risk in life, you cannot win a war.”
You ought to consider taking another risk by going into a relationship, and since all the hands are not equal, you may be surprised to meet a lady with a different character and there is the possibility that the two of you will be compatible and end up becoming a successful couple.
Obaa Yaa
Text message exposes my boyfriend
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My boyfriend told me he was attending the funeral of her late cousin outside Accra and promised to be back the next day.
Initially, the plan was that I would go with him and spend some time with his family since I have a good relationship with them.
I realised he was not comfortable about that and kept telling me that it’s a distant cousin and there was no to need join him.
He said he was going to park his car at the office and join a family bus.
My boyfriend picked a woman from Accra whom he had arranged with during the week.
I called her sister and she told me that his brother came with a lady and also secured themselves a hotel room.
Immediately he arrived, he went straight to the bath house, a lady sent a text message on his phone appreciating the good time they had together.
I read the message when he was having his bath.
Though her sister gave me every information but the text message confirmed everything.
How can he do such a thing? Why did he take another lady to the funeral and left me behind?
Abrefi, Tesano.
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Dear Abrefi,
I Understand how you are feeling at the moment because your boyfriend lied to you.
I advise you to confront your boyfriend on the allegations and let him know you have a proof.
He might be pissed off but that is exactly what you should do.
This will give you the opportunity to insist that you will attend all functions with him so that he will not have the opportunity to misbehave.
In confronting him, be calm. Don’t quarrel or nag.
Obaa Yaa
My boss is tormenting me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I have worked in a private environment in Accra for 10 years now. People talk about how stressful it is to work in a private sector but I did not believe it till I had my fair share of experience working with my new boss.
Recently, our boss was transferred and was replaced by a new boss.
In fact, I am finding it difficult to work with him.
Looking at my age, he talks to me like am a small boy and relates to me like a teacher and his pupil.
Sometimes, I feel like hitting him but it is against the rules of our company.
I currently do not have another employment opportunity. What can I do? I can’t cope with his behaviour anymore.
Joe Boy,
Ashiaman.
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Dear Joe Boy,
I am afraid you’d have to cope with your boss for the meantime. Learn to live with the ‘devil’ until you find a way about it.
Just live up to your responsibility; perform your functions to the best of your knowledge and do not misbehave towards him.
If he sees that you are competent, he would begin to respect you. Remember that respect is earned not demanded.
