Obaa Yaa
Dad says he won’t pay my fees
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am facing a big problem which is threatening my education and life as well.
I am in my last year in secondary school but my father is threatening to stop paying my school fees for reasons I cannot disclose.
I am appealing through you to any person or organisation to come to my rescue to help me continue with my education.
I am ready for any job, be it a driver or houseboy. I am a worried person. Please help.
Benson, Accra.
Dear Benson,
You are ready to become a houseboy or a driver in someone else’s house and must be ready to do anything for your father to change his mind.
I suggest you go down on your knees and own up for what you have done and ask for his forgiveness.
Bear in mind that times are hard, not only in this country. Most people do not even get regular meals, so if apart from food and clothes, you are lucky to be receiving secondary education, then you have to be grateful to your parents and concentrate on your studies.
If you are still keen on continuing with your education, then go and tell the whole story to an elderly person and ask him to accompany you to your father and apologise.
Obaa Yaa
He squats like a girl to urinate
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a single parent trying to raise my three children – two girls and a boy aged six, five and two.
I am not worried about money to take care for them because I am gainfully employed. The problem is that my little boy has not been urinating in the manner males do.
He has been squatting like how females do. I don’t know how to teach him since he does not allow me.
How do I handle such a situation?
Sandra, Sunyani.
Dear Freda,
Your boy is simply imitating his sisters and he is used to squatting while urinating.
This is not an issue you should be worried about. Continue to educate him that boys don’t squat; rather they stand and urinate.
When he grows up and sees his peers standing up to urinate, he’d learn to do the same.
Don’t get worried. Little kids change over time.
Obaa Yaa
Is he cheating on me?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My husband and I have been together for six years now. Recently when he came from town I asked him for money to buy something.
He directed me to bring the trousers but he later changed his mind and reached for the trousers himself.
Interestingly, I got the trousers first and when I removed his wallet, it came out together with a condom.
I asked him what he was doing with the condom because we don’t use it at home.
He told me to stop worrying him about it and never answered the question.
Esi Atta,
Krobo.
Dear Esi,
I AM afraid your husband might be cheating on you, but be thankful that he always has a condom in hand.
Try and discuss your fears with him and give him more attention.
Maybe he is not getting enough satisfaction at home and wants to go a bit extra-marital.
I hope you would not be too pissed off though. Take it cool, discuss the problem, and I believe that once he has been exposed, he would take steps to change.
But as I stated earlier, be thankful that he is a fan of condoms.
