Obaa Yaa
Difficult to choose between two ladies
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 27- year-old young man, active in church and a member of many youth groups. Due to my dynamism in church and the community, many people like me and l have made a lot of friends.
I am in love with two beautiful girls and would like to settle on one of them to marry.
My problem is the two ladies have good character, well-mannered, courteous and hardworking.
I have held myself back from having an affair with either of them since the youth have been advised to refrain from pre-marital sex.
How do l select between the two ladies who are not aware that l am interested in them and closely monitoring their conduct and activities.
Francis, Accra.
Dear Francis,
Being a dynamic young man will automatically attract scores of beautiful ladies to be in your company at all times. This requires that you deal with them sincerely and eschew immoral acts.
I commend you for being humble and eager to learn.
Note that time is the best judge and this will definitely help you in making a good decision. With time one of the ladies will back out to enable you to assess the one who is left very well
Alternatively, you can pay unannounced visits to them and learn a lot to do your assessment.
Having done all these, do not forget to pray for God’s direction.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
