Obaa Yaa
Ex-boyfriend offers me job
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 27 years old, unemployed and got married six months ago. Though my husband has got a job, his meagre salary can barely sustain the family for a week and things are going bad.
A few weeks ago, my ex-boy friend who treated me badly and almost succeeded in pushing me into the grave, told me that he had got a job for me in his father’s factory.
l rejected the offer outright, having considered the humiliation, pain and maltreatment my ex-boyfriend had meted out to me resulting in the abrupt end of the relationship.
However, when l recollected the toil my husband went through to keep the family going, I eventually decided to accept the offer in order to save the family from disgrace.
Should l accept the job or could this cause me a serious problem?
Ama, Kumasi.
Dear Ama,
This offer could cause a problem in your marriage if care is not taken. Your former boy friend could be looking for an avenue to entice you into his arms once again.
Moreover, your detractors could use this opportunity to tell lies to your husband about things they have not seen or heard.
Though your former boy friend could use this opportunity to appease you for the wrongs he had done against you, his brilliant idea could change to envy because of your past relationship.
Kindly turn down this offer to save your marriage and trust in the Lord for another opportunity will knock on your door.
Obaa Yaa
My boss is tormenting me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I have worked in a private environment in Accra for 10 years now. People talk about how stressful it is to work in a private sector but I did not believe it till I had my fair share of experience working with my new boss.
Recently, our boss was transferred and was replaced by a new boss.
In fact, I am finding it difficult to work with him.
Looking at my age, he talks to me like am a small boy and relates to me like a teacher and his pupil.
Sometimes, I feel like hitting him but it is against the rules of our company.
I currently do not have another employment opportunity. What can I do? I can’t cope with his behaviour anymore.
Joe Boy,
Ashiaman.
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Dear Joe Boy,
I am afraid you’d have to cope with your boss for the meantime. Learn to live with the ‘devil’ until you find a way about it.
Just live up to your responsibility; perform your functions to the best of your knowledge and do not misbehave towards him.
If he sees that you are competent, he would begin to respect you. Remember that respect is earned not demanded.
Obaa Yaa
I am in a state of dilemma
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My name is Owusu and I am 35- years -old while my wife is 30 years. We have been married for five years but been together for seven years. We have two children together and they are doing so well in their academics.
My company had a conference at a hotel in Kumasi and four of us from my department were selected to represent the company.
During lunch, I decided to take a stroll and enjoy the scenery around the hotel since it’s my first time there.
As I strolled around, I was shocked to see my wife step out of a car with a young man. They started walking towards the reception of the hotel. The man placed his arms around her waist and they seemed to be enjoying each other’s company.
I froze and felt bad. I wanted to shout and approach them but when I opened my mouth, no words came out and my feet were too heavy to drag. I just watched them in awe as they checked in at the reception and disappeared from my sight.
I am in my mother’s house now, I do not know how I will face her if I eventually go home. I told her my mom needs help with a few things at the house so I will lend a helping hand and also sleep over. I haven’t told anyone but my mom suspects that something is wrong.
I am down right now, my marriage and home seem to be coming to an end. Please what should I do?
Sakyi, Adenta.
Dear Sakyi,
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I understand how you feel and I plead with you to continue to be patient with your wife.
Please try and go home to have a word with her concerning the incident you saw.
Give her the benefit of doubt to explain what she was exactly doing there at that time with the man.
I am pleading with you to give her a second chance but most importantly, kindly inform her parents about it to talk to her.
You can seek the help of a professional counselor and go for therapies with her.
However, if you are not comfortable staying with her, please part ways with her peacefully. You can co-parent your daughter.
