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 He has stopped going to church

 Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am going through hell. I have been married for five years and I have known no peace.

My husband who was a staunch Christian before we married has taken to serious drinking.

And anytime he is drunk, he insults me for no reason. We have a child together.

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He has stopped going to church with us. Anytime he is drunk, he doesn’t come home.

I can’t cope any longer with the marriage, I want to quit. I need your wise counsel.

Yaa Mansa,

Techiman.

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Dear Yaa Mansa,

Married is not a straight road. It can be rough and winding sometimes be­cause many factors come to play.

Frustration at work can turn a man into a drunkard. Even nag­ging can change the nice charac­ter of a man.

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Financial problems can change a man’s mood.

So humans do change, but the good thing is that they can also change for the better.

However before a person can change, the root cause of his problem must be ascertained.

Find out why your husband is drinking and also stopped going to church and help him to re­form.

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Note that in such circumstanc­es, nagging does no good. He must be sympathized with and helped to turn around, and not condemned.

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Obaa Yaa

 My mum is always shouting at me

 Dear Obaa Yaa,

I AM an 18 year-old boy who has lost interest in education fol­lowing my failure to live up to expectation while in school.

As a result, I have quit school and that has made my mother the saddest woman of this earth.

She has invested so much in my education all by herself and the support of some of my relatives since my father failed to support my education and care for me from infancy.

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My mother shouts at me in any conversation and tells me how I want to make her life miserable by not going to school.

I want to learn a trade instead because I am struggling with school.

Odame, Konongo.

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Dear Odame,

I believe your mother did all she could to make life easier by giv­ing you the best of education.

If you knew you had no inter­est in what you were doing, you could have alerted her earlier.

I am happy you have admitted that your conduct is disturbing your mother and making her unhappy.

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If she is willing to continue supporting you, try and go back to school.

You can still go back to school and learn a trade.

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Obaa Yaa

He is taking advantage of me

 Dear Obaa Yaa,

I entered into a relationship with a young man when I was at the Univer­sity. We completed not quite long ago and planned to get married.

However, I find my man’s behaviour very strange.

For the past two years that we have been together, my man has not taken me to his house or introduced me to any of his family members.

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I am not convinced about the future of this relationship.

Oforiwaa, Lashibi

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Dear Oforiwaa,

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If the man doesn’t want to introduce you to his family members, then he’s obviously not in love with you.

He has no plans to have any serious relationship with you in future although he might have promised you that.

Whatever he might have told you is perhaps to get you into his bed.

I guess you stated it right. This man might be fooling you. So don’t let him take you for granted.

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