Obaa Yaa
He spends too much time on his phone
I am in a long distance relationship and I am getting worried because my boyfriend spends too much time on his phone. When he visits me, he can’t put his phone down for an hour. Recently, he visited me and I asked him to give me his phone briefly because I don’t understand why he can be so glued to his phone even at ungodly hours.
He gave me his password and I saw naked pictures of ladies on his phone. But he claimed he had not met the ladies before. I have told his mother about his addiction to social media and online engagement with naked ladies.
Now he blames me for telling his mother because his mother has lost trust in him. He says he will stop when we get married. Should I continue dating him?
Ohenewaa, Taifa.
Dear Ohenewaa,
Marriage is a lifelong decision. There are no proven super powers that allow people to change from their bad ways after marriage. Discuss your concerns with him, and possible get him some further counselling. However, if all other options fail and you feel your peace and comfort are threatened, you may exit the relationship.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Obaa Yaa
Girls lose interest in me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young man of 25 years and a born-again Christian. My problem is that girls lose interest in me as soon as I meet them, to the extent that they even reject my marriage proposals.
I am getting worried, especially as I have now met the kind of girl that I really want for a wife. But I cannot approach her for fear that she will also find me boring.
Please tell me how to go about it.
Joshua, Bono East
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Dear Joshua,
Maybe you should try and recollect all the conversations you had with the girls you met and their responses, and reactions. That should give you an idea of what has been happening.
But it is possible that because you are born-again, you feel so superior and look down on everyone else.
And, are you are so full of yourself that you are always blowing your horn?
Before you approach this new girl, try and do some self-analysis and find solutions to whatever plan you come up with.
Obaa Yaa
My marriage is coming to an end
Dear Obaa Yaa,
MY name is Philip and I’m 45 years old while my wife is 40 years. We have been married for 14 years but been together for 19 years. We have a girl, she is in High School now and doing pretty well.
My company had a conference at a hotel in Kumasi and four of us from my department were selected to represent the company. During lunch, I decided to take a stroll and enjoy the scenery around the hotel since it’s my first time there.
As I strolled around, I was shocked to see my wife step out of a vehicle with a younger man. They started walking towards the reception of the hotel. The man placed his arms around her waist and they were enjoying each other’s company.
I froze and felt a huge cloud of pain weighing over my head. I wanted to shout and approach them but when I opened my mouth, no words came out and my feet was too heavy to drag.
I am in my mother’s house now, I do not know how I will face her if I eventually go home. I was told my mom needs help with few things at the house so I will lend a helping hand and also sleep over. I haven’t told anyone but my mom suspects that something is wrong.
I am so devastated right now, my marriage and home seems to be coming to an end. Please what should I do?
Philip, Kumasi.
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Dear Philip,
I understand how you feel; I plead with you to continue to be patient with your wife.
Please try and go home to have a word with her concerning what you witnessed.
Give her the benefit of doubt to explain what she was exactly doing there at that time with the man.
I am pleading with you to give her a second chance but most importantly, kindly inform her parents about it to talk to her.
You can seek the help of a professional counselor and go for therapies with her.
However, if you are not comfortable staying with her, please part ways with her peacefully. You can co-parent your daughter.
