Obaa Yaa
Her love is still in my heart
Dear ObaaYaa,
We started friendship four years ago on a good note and this was a delight to many people.During the four years of our friendship, we visited each other at home and our parents and relatives had no problem with our relationship.
When l had surgery about two years ago, my lady was always there to render her support and services in whichever way she could and people admired her for that.
I was fortunate to get a job at Tamele in the Northern Region and she visited me on four occasions. Later, she told me that her father had disapproved of our relationship without assigning any reasons.
All attempts to persuade her to stick to our resolve to marry is unsuccessful and l am seriously disturbed about the latest events.
The love we have for each other is great and l do not know what step to take.
Kofi, Accra.
Dear Kofi,
I can imagine how you feel about the change of events in your relationship. I find it quite interesting how your parents were in support of your decision to marry initially.
Since it is not possible to pinpoint what might have informed his decision to change his mind suddenly, keep calm and see how things will turn out to be finally.
Though you might have enjoyed each other’s company all these yearsand very certain of a lovelymarried life, things are going contrary to how you had planned.
All the same, convey your sentiments to your girlfriend and plead with her to convince some of her relatives to talk to her father to rescind his decision.
However, if this suggestion fails, then you have to end the relationship, though on a painful note.
Obaa Yaa
My boss is tormenting me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I have worked in a private environment in Accra for 10 years now. People talk about how stressful it is to work in a private sector but I did not believe it till I had my fair share of experience working with my new boss.
Recently, our boss was transferred and was replaced by a new boss.
In fact, I am finding it difficult to work with him.
Looking at my age, he talks to me like am a small boy and relates to me like a teacher and his pupil.
Sometimes, I feel like hitting him but it is against the rules of our company.
I currently do not have another employment opportunity. What can I do? I can’t cope with his behaviour anymore.
Joe Boy,
Ashiaman.
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Dear Joe Boy,
I am afraid you’d have to cope with your boss for the meantime. Learn to live with the ‘devil’ until you find a way about it.
Just live up to your responsibility; perform your functions to the best of your knowledge and do not misbehave towards him.
If he sees that you are competent, he would begin to respect you. Remember that respect is earned not demanded.
Obaa Yaa
I am in a state of dilemma
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My name is Owusu and I am 35- years -old while my wife is 30 years. We have been married for five years but been together for seven years. We have two children together and they are doing so well in their academics.
My company had a conference at a hotel in Kumasi and four of us from my department were selected to represent the company.
During lunch, I decided to take a stroll and enjoy the scenery around the hotel since it’s my first time there.
As I strolled around, I was shocked to see my wife step out of a car with a young man. They started walking towards the reception of the hotel. The man placed his arms around her waist and they seemed to be enjoying each other’s company.
I froze and felt bad. I wanted to shout and approach them but when I opened my mouth, no words came out and my feet were too heavy to drag. I just watched them in awe as they checked in at the reception and disappeared from my sight.
I am in my mother’s house now, I do not know how I will face her if I eventually go home. I told her my mom needs help with a few things at the house so I will lend a helping hand and also sleep over. I haven’t told anyone but my mom suspects that something is wrong.
I am down right now, my marriage and home seem to be coming to an end. Please what should I do?
Sakyi, Adenta.
Dear Sakyi,
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I understand how you feel and I plead with you to continue to be patient with your wife.
Please try and go home to have a word with her concerning the incident you saw.
Give her the benefit of doubt to explain what she was exactly doing there at that time with the man.
I am pleading with you to give her a second chance but most importantly, kindly inform her parents about it to talk to her.
You can seek the help of a professional counselor and go for therapies with her.
However, if you are not comfortable staying with her, please part ways with her peacefully. You can co-parent your daughter.
