Obaa Yaa
His outburst scares me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
We have been in friendship close to seven months and things have been going on smoothly to my delight.
He has very good looks, fine disposition, very accommodating and has promised that he would do all within his means to marry me.
Unfortunately, l have discovered another side of him which has frightened me to the marrow.
Recently, there was a little misunderstanding between him and a friend of his. The exchanges between the two gentlemen were serious.
Though my fiancé had been wrongly accused of the issue which triggered the misunderstanding, he has vowed never to forgive the gentleman involved.
Finally, the two intimate friends who did almost everything together are no more talking to each other. Some of their colleagues had attempted to settle the matter, but without success.
Eventually, the matter is in court and judgement is yet to be delivered.
Being the calm person that l am, and for the fact that l cannot stand quarrels of such magnitude, l have made up my mind to end the relationship since l cannot tell when a powerful ‘axe’ of this sort will land on my head to embarrass me.
l have taken my decision but l would like to listen to your opinion on this matter.
Aba, Cape Coast.
Dear Aba,
I would like to commend you for the bold initiative you have taken to decide on your future irrespective of the flamboyant gentleman of your heart.
A period for courtship is an occasion for two love birds to study each other, be satisfied and equally prepared to handle the shortcomings or challenges of your partner.
The would-be -couple must come to the realisation that they are compatible and for that matter can live together.
This is not a period to indulge in sex, because taking such a position would prevent one from taking definitive decision, if one would like to back out of the relationship.
Obaa Yaa
He squats like a girl to urinate
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a single parent trying to raise my three children – two girls and a boy aged six, five and two.
I am not worried about money to take care for them because I am gainfully employed. The problem is that my little boy has not been urinating in the manner males do.
He has been squatting like how females do. I don’t know how to teach him since he does not allow me.
How do I handle such a situation?
Sandra, Sunyani.
Dear Freda,
Your boy is simply imitating his sisters and he is used to squatting while urinating.
This is not an issue you should be worried about. Continue to educate him that boys don’t squat; rather they stand and urinate.
When he grows up and sees his peers standing up to urinate, he’d learn to do the same.
Don’t get worried. Little kids change over time.
Obaa Yaa
Is he cheating on me?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My husband and I have been together for six years now. Recently when he came from town I asked him for money to buy something.
He directed me to bring the trousers but he later changed his mind and reached for the trousers himself.
Interestingly, I got the trousers first and when I removed his wallet, it came out together with a condom.
I asked him what he was doing with the condom because we don’t use it at home.
He told me to stop worrying him about it and never answered the question.
Esi Atta,
Krobo.
Dear Esi,
I AM afraid your husband might be cheating on you, but be thankful that he always has a condom in hand.
Try and discuss your fears with him and give him more attention.
Maybe he is not getting enough satisfaction at home and wants to go a bit extra-marital.
I hope you would not be too pissed off though. Take it cool, discuss the problem, and I believe that once he has been exposed, he would take steps to change.
But as I stated earlier, be thankful that he is a fan of condoms.
