Obaa Yaa
Husband impregnates house help
Dear ObaaYaa,
I was a house-help close to 10 years with my madam and her husband. I was responsible for raising their three children from their infancy till they entered the Junior High School.
My madam and her husband were pleased with my services and, therefore, entrusted more responsibilities into my care.
Initially, my madam invited the younger sister to take care of her children whenever she made her foreign trips. I accorded the sister the same measure of respect and assistance on those occasions.
After some time, her younger sister also got married and, therefore, could not provide support to her sister.
As the foreign trips continued, the mantle finally fell on me to take charge of the house.
Though my master has been making advances at me, l managed to turn down his requests.
One day, when my madam was away and the children were asleep, my master asked me to serve him with a bottle of beer and also take the only bottle of coke in the fridge.
l felt dizzy ten minutes after drinking the coke and by the time l woke up,my master was beside me in my bed.
Having discovered this, lwas terrified and suddenly jumped out ofthe bed, but he managed to get hold of me and one can imagine the conclusion.
After this first encounter, he made it a routine to make love to me. He gave me a lot of money in a way to compensate meand warned me not to tell anybody about it.
l am pregnant and he is forcing me to abort the pregnancy because my madam will not take kindly to it when she discovers it.
What should l do?
Memouna , Accra.
Dear Memouna,
Since two wrongs do not make a right, I will advise you to keep the pregnancy because the harm hasalready been done so you must prepare your mind to give birth.
Your continued stay in the house will expose you so it will be better for you to leave the house as early as possible. In this case your master should support you with money to settle in a different house in order to protect his marriage.
Make sure the relationships ends here after you have been delivered of your child otherwise the embarrassment will be too much.
Obaa Yaa
I am in love with a married man
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 27- year- old lady who has fallen in love with a married man. I met this man on a business trip in koforidua of the Eastern Region.
I fell for him at first sight, though I knew he was married because he had a ring on his finger.
He took my number and started calling to check up on me. He is super nice, caring, soft spoken and gentle.
I began to develop feelings for him because he had all the qualities I needed in a man. He proposed to me and I accepted it.
Even though I knew he was married, it didn’t stop me from dating him. We started dating and he has been very supportive and loving.
I am madly in love with him that I wish he wasn’t married, yet I do not also want to break his home. I am doing everything possible to help him hide this affair from his wife.
I am not happy dating a married man but I love him. Please what should I do?
Worried lady, Alajo.
Dear worried lady,
I an happy you said you didn’t want to break someone’s home in the first place. It is rather unfortunate you have fallen in love with a married man.
You are a very beautiful young lady and everyman will be willing to settle down with a young lady.
Try as much as possible to avoid his calls and stay away from him.
Stay away from his lane and be careful. Mind you, you are a woman and there is Karma.
Obaa Yaa
My wife feeds me with her sugar daddy’s money
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am married to a beautiful young lady who is really very industrious. I lost my job recently and this woman has been taking care of me.
However, my friends keep telling me that she has a sugar daddy who gives her money.
I am inclined to believe this because the kind of money she brings home is far more than her pay as a typist.
The taught of this is even killing me softly. I don’t want to investigate this allegation because I am afraid of what I may see.
I love her so much. What should I do?
Nene,Odumase.
Dear Nene
You must act like a man. A man who loves his wife cannot allow another man to have her no matter their circumstance. The fact that you have lost your job doesn’t mean you should sell your dignity and integrity.
Be bold and confront your wife about the stories you are hearing about this sugar daddy stuff. You better stop her and the money she has been bringing home for your upkeep, or else she might also be bringing it for your obituary.
Investigate the stories and take steps to stop her from this adulterous behaviour on her part.
Make sure you get a job and be the man you are supposed to be.
