Obaa Yaa
I am afraid of getting married
I am afraid of getting married the third child of my parents, a graduate and 27 years old. Though I am working and have the means to cater for a family of my own, I am afraid of getting married because my two elderly brothers are suffering from broken marriages.
Their weddings were good in the beginning but could not go beyond four years.
The traumatic experience one of them had nearly resulted in a serious health problem.
This predicament is putting fears in me not to marry. Unfortunately, most of my colleagues have married and developing their families but I am at a standstill.
For this reason l would like to remain single to free myself from this problem. Despite my decision, I am waiting for your advice to help guide my decision.
Kwame, Tema.
Dear Kwame,
Though it is good to study current developments in your family to guide your future, we have different opportunities, circumstances and challenges in life that people go through. Things happen for different reasons and each person is different.
It was a coincidence that your brothers had this problem, and this should not put fears into you.
The circumstances under which your brothers operated will definitely be different from yours so have a changed mindset, remain positive and venture into marriage its benefits.
Obaa Yaa
Can malt make me tall?
Dear Obaa Yaa, Can malt make me tall?
I am a boy of 16 years and I have a group of friends who are taller than me. They always mock me. They say that I am too short to be in their company.
They even tell me that I spoil their chances of meeting girls because the girls do not look at them when I am in their company.
Is there any medicine which makes people tall or any exercise which can make me tall?
Is it really true that malt can make people tall? My friends say that weightlifting can also help.
Oware
Accra.
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Dear Oware,
People who make you unhappy do not qualify to be called friends, and your first worry should be how to leave their company.
You are only 16 years, and there is still a great chance that you might add a few inches to your height.
But if it doesn’t happen, don’t let it be a problem because it not how tall or short a person is which matters, but what a person achieves.
There are no known drugs or drinks (Malt included) which can increase a person’s height.
Exercises and weightlifting will not make you tall, but they can at least make you fit and healthy.
Obaa Yaa
I want a divorce
Dear Obaa Yaa,
After two years of marriage, I have realised that I made a big mistake in marrying my wife. She has become very different from the woman I knew and married; she is so uncompromising.
I have met another girl who is just the type of girl I should have married. She agrees with me on everything and does not harass me the way my wife does.
My wife will not agree to a divorce and my girl refuses to be a second wife. I am caught in a dilemma, because both my wife and my girlfriend are making my life hell. I feel very tempted to leave them both.
Owusu,
Tafo.
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Dear Owusu
Maybe you should give your marriage another chance. For all you know, your wife is just as unhappy as you are but she is trying to live with the situation.
Your girlfriend’s attitude now is different from your wife’s and that should tell you that no one is perfect. It should also prove to you that when people are not happy, they behave differently.
Try and communicate with your wife more and discuss your problems no matter how little it might look.
If you make the effort to keep your marriage, you might be surprised at the positive changes that will take place in your life.
