Obaa Yaa
I can’t forget the orgasms
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 42-year old married woman and I am haunted by my past. I always think about the boyfriend I had when I was 25 years old and how he turned my life around.
In fact, he showed me what it means to get an orgasm, and I will never forget the enjoyment.
We could, however, not get married because he travelled to the United States (US) leaving me behind, but I tell you for sure that I would not hesitate at all if he comes back today and asks me to have sex with him.
Since I got married, my husband has not been able to give me orgasm and anytime I complain, he ignores me and downplays all the efforts I have made to get him to up his game.
I am very much confused and afraid to do anything outside of marriage because I love my husband, but that is the only problem we have.
My worry now is how to erase him from my mind until I see him personally.
Obaa Yaa, please help me.
Becky O. S.
Accra
Dear Becky,
YOU are currently married and I will advise you to control your feelings no matter the feelings for your ex-boyfriend.
In as much as you have a thrill for your past, try to sit your husband down and discuss your sex life.
Let him know how you want it and how he should go about it to make you happy.
I think you can safely rely on the fact that time wears off memories.
You may not be able to erase the sweet memories immediately, but with time, you’ll get over it.
Meanwhile, stop fantasising about the guy and think about more useful things that would help you in life.
After all, life isn’t only about sex and orgasms.
Obaa Yaa
My mum is always shouting at me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I AM an 18 year-old boy who has lost interest in education following my failure to live up to expectation while in school.
As a result, I have quit school and that has made my mother the saddest woman of this earth.
She has invested so much in my education all by herself and the support of some of my relatives since my father failed to support my education and care for me from infancy.
My mother shouts at me in any conversation and tells me how I want to make her life miserable by not going to school.
I want to learn a trade instead because I am struggling with school.
Odame, Konongo.
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Dear Odame,
I believe your mother did all she could to make life easier by giving you the best of education.
If you knew you had no interest in what you were doing, you could have alerted her earlier.
I am happy you have admitted that your conduct is disturbing your mother and making her unhappy.
If she is willing to continue supporting you, try and go back to school.
You can still go back to school and learn a trade.
Obaa Yaa
He is taking advantage of me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I entered into a relationship with a young man when I was at the University. We completed not quite long ago and planned to get married.
However, I find my man’s behaviour very strange.
For the past two years that we have been together, my man has not taken me to his house or introduced me to any of his family members.
I am not convinced about the future of this relationship.
Oforiwaa, Lashibi
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Dear Oforiwaa,
If the man doesn’t want to introduce you to his family members, then he’s obviously not in love with you.
He has no plans to have any serious relationship with you in future although he might have promised you that.
Whatever he might have told you is perhaps to get you into his bed.
I guess you stated it right. This man might be fooling you. So don’t let him take you for granted.
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