Obaa Yaa
I had an affair with my friend’s fiancée
Dear Obaa Yaa,
It is exactly four years now since I befriended a lady who I got along with very well. She was very friendly and the easy-go type. In no time, she became a ‘darling girl’ of a few friends of mine.
The bond grew stronger and a few around us suspected we were actually dating.
One thing led to another and we had an affair after which we asked ourselves how it happened but we remained cool with ourselves.
It was after the act that she told me about her fiancé living in the USA but had not shown any seriousness in the relationship and was opened to any serious guy that comes around.
We continued having affair as and when we felt like and never bothered each other over whether we should be in a proper relationship.
She later relocated to Kumasi as her father was transferred but we remained buddies, charting heartily on phone for some time until she got a job that engaged her a lot.
Recently, I met an old friend of mine who has also relocated to Accra from Kumasi and after a brief chat, he promised to introduce his wife-to-be to me.
On the said date when we met, it was this good old friend of mine and that has left me confused over whether to tell my friend or not, although we vowed to keep what happened between us as a secret.
Lee Manuel, Ablekuma
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Dear Lee Manuel,
Your story is a very touching and emotional one but I am glad you opened up to me for advice. First of all, I would advise you open up to your friend to let him know everything that has happened so that he knows the kind of lady he is about to marry.
She lied and was not loyal to both you and your friend which is not right and fair.
If you keep the ‘secret’ to yourself and not open up, your friend will be disappointed in you when he finds out from someone else.
Remember what ever goes around comes around so be open and tell your friend. Let him know because he was not in the fray when you two were frolicking around.
All the best in your approaches and remember not to hide anything but tell the truth to your friend.
Obaa Yaa
They said the carpenter is not a good match
Dear Obaa Yaa,
As a University graduate from the prestigious University of Ghana currently doing my National Service in a very great institution, I am dating a carpenter who barely completed his Junior High School.
I love him, and I don’t see any problem dating him but my sisters are against it.
I started dating him when I was in my third year, he is caring, free spirit and kind.
My sisters are saying he is not a good match for me and he will block my chances in future.
He’s even demanding to go see my parents.
Please what should I do?
Miriam,North Legon
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Dear Miriam,
I can see the love for your boyfriend is deep. I pray the two of you will be in this boat forever.
Love does not show class, level etc. It’s about two matured people who have decided to build a family together.
In your letter, you mentioned that your sisters were against you marrying the carpenter. They are looking at your boyfriend’s background and occupation.
If you really love him, you can help him to register for courses in order to upgrade his schooling and make his business very attractive.
I know there are men who are interested in you as well. But don’t let that get into your head. Take your time and study all of them because marriage is a long journey.
Take him to your parents as well, they might even like him.
Obaa Yaa
He has stopped going to church
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am going through hell. I have been married for five years and I have known no peace.
My husband who was a staunch Christian before we married has taken to serious drinking.
And anytime he is drunk, he insults me for no reason. We have a child together.
He has stopped going to church with us. Anytime he is drunk, he doesn’t come home.
I can’t cope any longer with the marriage, I want to quit. I need your wise counsel.
Yaa Mansa,
Techiman.
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Dear Yaa Mansa,
Married is not a straight road. It can be rough and winding sometimes because many factors come to play.
Frustration at work can turn a man into a drunkard. Even nagging can change the nice character of a man.
Financial problems can change a man’s mood.
So humans do change, but the good thing is that they can also change for the better.
However before a person can change, the root cause of his problem must be ascertained.
Find out why your husband is drinking and also stopped going to church and help him to reform.
Note that in such circumstances, nagging does no good. He must be sympathized with and helped to turn around, and not condemned.
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