Obaa Yaa
I had an affair with my friend’s fiancée
Dear Obaa Yaa,
It is exactly four years now since I befriended a lady who I got along with very well. She was very friendly and the easy-go type. In no time, she became a ‘darling girl’ of a few friends of mine.
The bond grew stronger and a few around us suspected we were actually dating.
One thing led to another and we had an affair after which we asked ourselves how it happened but we remained cool with ourselves.
It was after the act that she told me about her fiancé living in the USA but had not shown any seriousness in the relationship and was opened to any serious guy that comes around.
We continued having affair as and when we felt like and never bothered each other over whether we should be in a proper relationship.
She later relocated to Kumasi as her father was transferred but we remained buddies, charting heartily on phone for some time until she got a job that engaged her a lot.
Recently, I met an old friend of mine who has also relocated to Accra from Kumasi and after a brief chat, he promised to introduce his wife-to-be to me.
On the said date when we met, it was this good old friend of mine and that has left me confused over whether to tell my friend or not, although we vowed to keep what happened between us as a secret.
Lee Manuel, Ablekuma
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Dear Lee Manuel,
Your story is a very touching and emotional one but I am glad you opened up to me for advice. First of all, I would advise you open up to your friend to let him know everything that has happened so that he knows the kind of lady he is about to marry.
She lied and was not loyal to both you and your friend which is not right and fair.
If you keep the ‘secret’ to yourself and not open up, your friend will be disappointed in you when he finds out from someone else.
Remember what ever goes around comes around so be open and tell your friend. Let him know because he was not in the fray when you two were frolicking around.
All the best in your approaches and remember not to hide anything but tell the truth to your friend.
Obaa Yaa
Can malt make me tall?
Dear Obaa Yaa, Can malt make me tall?
I am a boy of 16 years and I have a group of friends who are taller than me. They always mock me. They say that I am too short to be in their company.
They even tell me that I spoil their chances of meeting girls because the girls do not look at them when I am in their company.
Is there any medicine which makes people tall or any exercise which can make me tall?
Is it really true that malt can make people tall? My friends say that weightlifting can also help.
Oware
Accra.
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Dear Oware,
People who make you unhappy do not qualify to be called friends, and your first worry should be how to leave their company.
You are only 16 years, and there is still a great chance that you might add a few inches to your height.
But if it doesn’t happen, don’t let it be a problem because it not how tall or short a person is which matters, but what a person achieves.
There are no known drugs or drinks (Malt included) which can increase a person’s height.
Exercises and weightlifting will not make you tall, but they can at least make you fit and healthy.
Obaa Yaa
I want a divorce
Dear Obaa Yaa,
After two years of marriage, I have realised that I made a big mistake in marrying my wife. She has become very different from the woman I knew and married; she is so uncompromising.
I have met another girl who is just the type of girl I should have married. She agrees with me on everything and does not harass me the way my wife does.
My wife will not agree to a divorce and my girl refuses to be a second wife. I am caught in a dilemma, because both my wife and my girlfriend are making my life hell. I feel very tempted to leave them both.
Owusu,
Tafo.
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Dear Owusu
Maybe you should give your marriage another chance. For all you know, your wife is just as unhappy as you are but she is trying to live with the situation.
Your girlfriend’s attitude now is different from your wife’s and that should tell you that no one is perfect. It should also prove to you that when people are not happy, they behave differently.
Try and communicate with your wife more and discuss your problems no matter how little it might look.
If you make the effort to keep your marriage, you might be surprised at the positive changes that will take place in your life.