Obaa Yaa
I still love my ex-boyfriend
Dear ObaaYaa,
I am married to a businessman who travels the length and breadth of the country, meeting business partners and always making efforts to increase his stock of goods.
His insatiable desire to become one of the richest businessmen in the country has led him to make more enemies.
He has made money his best friend and excluded everything and has even refused to take interest in me, his wife.
Though l have made my concern known to him, l am not happy because he seems not to be bothered about it and is still going about his business.
How I wished he was around me always, especially when l need him more to fill the vacuum in my life but it is not so.
Unfortunately, a friend proposed a gentleman to me who would keep me company and this has ended in a deep love between us and i find it difficult to stop this.
What should l l do to stop this relationship?
Aku, Kumasi
Dear MaameAkua,
Though the Bible enjoins one to work hard in order to earn a living, one is supposed to do that in moderation by taking into consideration other factors.
Your man cannot give any excuse for the total neglect of his family and solely depend on his business to the detriment of your marriage. He should remember that he has no authority over his body likewise you.
You should once again attempt talking to your husband and let him understand the harm that he is causing to you.
There is the possibility that he has a secret lover or lovers who might have been comforting his bed on his numerous travels and he does not see the essence of satisfying you at home.
Alternatively, it could be that your husband is deeply engrossed in his business and has, therefore, relegated other interests to the background.
As a wife, you should stop the relationship with your new-found lover who has taken over the place of your husband.
Though your husband is not playing his marital role well, this should not give you the privilege to take another man so long as you remain married to him.
Obaa Yaa
Text message exposes my boyfriend
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My boyfriend told me he was attending the funeral of her late cousin outside Accra and promised to be back the next day.
Initially, the plan was that I would go with him and spend some time with his family since I have a good relationship with them.
I realised he was not comfortable about that and kept telling me that it’s a distant cousin and there was no to need join him.
He said he was going to park his car at the office and join a family bus.
My boyfriend picked a woman from Accra whom he had arranged with during the week.
I called her sister and she told me that his brother came with a lady and also secured themselves a hotel room.
Immediately he arrived, he went straight to the bath house, a lady sent a text message on his phone appreciating the good time they had together.
I read the message when he was having his bath.
Though her sister gave me every information but the text message confirmed everything.
How can he do such a thing? Why did he take another lady to the funeral and left me behind?
Abrefi, Tesano.
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Dear Abrefi,
I Understand how you are feeling at the moment because your boyfriend lied to you.
I advise you to confront your boyfriend on the allegations and let him know you have a proof.
He might be pissed off but that is exactly what you should do.
This will give you the opportunity to insist that you will attend all functions with him so that he will not have the opportunity to misbehave.
In confronting him, be calm. Don’t quarrel or nag.
Obaa Yaa
My boss is tormenting me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I have worked in a private environment in Accra for 10 years now. People talk about how stressful it is to work in a private sector but I did not believe it till I had my fair share of experience working with my new boss.
Recently, our boss was transferred and was replaced by a new boss.
In fact, I am finding it difficult to work with him.
Looking at my age, he talks to me like am a small boy and relates to me like a teacher and his pupil.
Sometimes, I feel like hitting him but it is against the rules of our company.
I currently do not have another employment opportunity. What can I do? I can’t cope with his behaviour anymore.
Joe Boy,
Ashiaman.
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Dear Joe Boy,
I am afraid you’d have to cope with your boss for the meantime. Learn to live with the ‘devil’ until you find a way about it.
Just live up to your responsibility; perform your functions to the best of your knowledge and do not misbehave towards him.
If he sees that you are competent, he would begin to respect you. Remember that respect is earned not demanded.
