I want to go back to my ex

Dear Obaa Yaa,

My girlfriend and I were in a relationship for five years. We had a misunderstanding, leading to a three-month break.

The misunderstanding was as a result of me taking too much alcohol and not saving for the future.

I know she wants the best for me, but I thought she wanted to control my life and make it unbearable for me.

This led to our break-up but I have regretted my actions.

During the break-up, I got involved with another girl and unfortunately she became pregnant.

Even though I do not have any romantic feelings for her, her family is insisting I marry her.

On the other hand, my ex-girlfriend wants us to reconcile and get married.

To be honest, I love my ex-girlfriend very much. Her family knows me well, and she was there for me when I travelled overseas.

What should I do?

Sena, Nyakrom

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Dear Sena,

Experience is indeed the mother of wisdom, and I am glad you have grown and learned from your mistakes.

I know you are currently back against the wall but my advice is to prioritise your girlfriend who is currently pregnant with your child.

Love can evolve over time, and I believe that in the coming days, you may develop romantic feelings for the new person in your life.

It is advisable to have an honest conversation with your ex-girlfriend, explain your current situation to her and ensure she understands that you are now involved with someone else.

Pastors take too much money from members

Dear Obaa Yaa,

A FRIEND invited me to his church a few weeks ago and I was embarrassed at the way the priest demanded money from the congregation.

Will God bless such offerings extracted from church goers?

Etornam,

Volta Region.

Dear Etornam,

It is true that some churches demand money from their congregation. But it is also a fact that some of these churches uses these funds to build proper places of worship.

Utilities like water and electricity bills plus certain allowances or salaries of full –time workers in the church are also settled with this money.

Indeed if these money is put to proper use, it will enhance God’s work, and contributors would be blessed.

But if the money is misused, the people may think they are deceiving the congregation, but they cannot deceive God.

I can’t make a choice

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am a 40-year old banker and doing so well financially. I have a side business and I own two houses at Adenta. I have two girls in my life and I value each one for who they are. I want to settle down this year but I’m finding it difficult to make a choice.

One is financially stable, hardworking but disrespectful. The other is jobless, obedient and dull.

I love both of them and I am finding it difficult to choose. Should I marry one and keep one as a friend or I should leave them all.

They are all very beautiful. I am confused.

Kwansima,

Elmina.

Dear

I don’t believe that you are serious about marriage. I strongly believe you don’t love both of them, because you will never have a second thought when you love someone.

Also, I don’t believe that the girls are as daft as you want to portray.

For instance, what makes you think they are yours to pick and choose what roles they should play?

You are old enough to know what you want and what will be best for you. In as much as the ladies are pretty, each of them have different qualities you also want.

If I were you, I would propose and find out which of the girls would have you.