Obaa Yaa
I will marry her no matter what happens
Dear ObaaYaa,
We were good friends from the Junior High School and by share coincidence l discovered that both of us had registered for the same course in the polytechnic.
By studying and doing things together, we ended up becoming intimate friends and have planned to seal our friendship with marriage after school when we secure jobs.
We have passed through thick and thin and benefitted from each other in diverse ways. Our love keep growing from strength to strength and we cannot do without each other. All these while,things were moving smoothly between us and we have planned to marry at the end of this year.
Unfortunately, my mother is against our intention to marry and l don’t know what to do.
Despite the disapproval of my mother, l have decided to go ahead with the marriage no matter the opposition and the consequences. I need your advice on it.
Joseph,Tema.
Dear Joseph,
Love affairs must be handled with care and diplomacy while serious considerations are given to the factors which make marriage successful.
Since your letter was silent on your father, you ought to get the consent of your mother in order to contract this marriage. This will pave the way for the two families to settle on a suitable date to perform the marriage rites.
With all humility, you must once again approach your mother to accept your decision to marry the woman of your choice. If this attempt fails, then you must inform some of your relatives to persuade your mother to agree.
Your decision to marry this lady at all cost reveals the level of love between the two of you.
Obaa Yaa
Under pressure from family to marry
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.
It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.
Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.
Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.
Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?
Akwasi.
Dear Akwasi,
MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.
You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.
No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.
Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.
Obaa Yaa
He forcibly kissed me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 20-year-old girl and a virgin. I have made up my mind not to have sex before marriage or involve myself in any immoral acts.
Interestingly, when I turned 25, I met a man who was in his early thirties doing so well with business.
He is very kind, lovely, faithful, caring, humble and God-fearing.
We began dating for some time and because he didn’t ask for sex, I concluded he was the right man for me.
One holiday, we decided to hang out. He proposed marriage to me, when I said yes, he forcibly kissed me.
Looking at things, I am afraid that he will one day forcibly have sex with me.
Should I go on with this relationship?
Annora, Sunyani.
Dear Anora,
YOU are growing and you should be able stand by the decisions you take.
Once this man has forcibly kissed you, what he intends to do next is to have sex with you.
He might be a good man so don’t end the relationship because of the incident that happened.
If you are not ready to marry, do not accept any love proposal from a man.
If you are also interested in him, kindly tell him to do the needful before any other thing.
