Obaa Yaa
I’m afraid my mum will reject her
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young man of 35 years of age. I met a woman who is also in her 30s three years ago at a friend’s wedding. We have been dating since then.
She is a very intelligent lady, humble, hardworking and every man’s dream girl.
I proposed to her and I must say the lady loves me so much.
I want to take the relationship to a different level. However, my mother does not support my decision because she dislikes her tribe.
The only barrier is that she comes from a tribe which my mother advised me against. Due to that, I have not been bold enough to mention her tribe to my mother.
I really wish to introduce her formally to my parents but I am scared of what my mother will say. How do I go about it? I need your advice.
Israel, Accra
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Dear Israel,
Having someone who makes you happy is a good thing.
From your own words, your girlfriend is loving and caring and possesses all these admirable qualities. I think you should count yourself lucky and blessed to have gotten a woman in this present day with such pleasant qualities.
And it is obvious that you really love her; so I will advise that you tell your parents the truth about her tribe.
Her tribe should not be a hindrance at all if she is a good woman.
She will definitely win the heart of your mother if she is a good woman as you portray her to be.
Moreover, you can talk to your mother about how good she is and explain to her why you need her as your future wife.
Obaa Yaa
Text message exposes my boyfriend
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My boyfriend told me he was attending the funeral of her late cousin outside Accra and promised to be back the next day.
Initially, the plan was that I would go with him and spend some time with his family since I have a good relationship with them.
I realised he was not comfortable about that and kept telling me that it’s a distant cousin and there was no to need join him.
He said he was going to park his car at the office and join a family bus.
My boyfriend picked a woman from Accra whom he had arranged with during the week.
I called her sister and she told me that his brother came with a lady and also secured themselves a hotel room.
Immediately he arrived, he went straight to the bath house, a lady sent a text message on his phone appreciating the good time they had together.
I read the message when he was having his bath.
Though her sister gave me every information but the text message confirmed everything.
How can he do such a thing? Why did he take another lady to the funeral and left me behind?
Abrefi, Tesano.
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Dear Abrefi,
I Understand how you are feeling at the moment because your boyfriend lied to you.
I advise you to confront your boyfriend on the allegations and let him know you have a proof.
He might be pissed off but that is exactly what you should do.
This will give you the opportunity to insist that you will attend all functions with him so that he will not have the opportunity to misbehave.
In confronting him, be calm. Don’t quarrel or nag.
Obaa Yaa
My boss is tormenting me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I have worked in a private environment in Accra for 10 years now. People talk about how stressful it is to work in a private sector but I did not believe it till I had my fair share of experience working with my new boss.
Recently, our boss was transferred and was replaced by a new boss.
In fact, I am finding it difficult to work with him.
Looking at my age, he talks to me like am a small boy and relates to me like a teacher and his pupil.
Sometimes, I feel like hitting him but it is against the rules of our company.
I currently do not have another employment opportunity. What can I do? I can’t cope with his behaviour anymore.
Joe Boy,
Ashiaman.
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Dear Joe Boy,
I am afraid you’d have to cope with your boss for the meantime. Learn to live with the ‘devil’ until you find a way about it.
Just live up to your responsibility; perform your functions to the best of your knowledge and do not misbehave towards him.
If he sees that you are competent, he would begin to respect you. Remember that respect is earned not demanded.
