Obaa Yaa
Is this nude picture for me?
Obaa Yaa,
We have been married for close to three years now and my husband has never sent me his nude picture before, not even when we were dating and stayed apart but now that we stay together he did.
He recently sent me his nude picture and am baffled by his actions. This act of his has got me thinking recently that my husband might be cheating on me.
I don’t know why my husband will start sending me nude pictures now that we stay together. It is possible he was sending it to someone and it mistakenly came to me instead.
I am beginning to lose the trust I have in my husband and his love for me.
Should I confront him about it or act like I don’t know what he has done and see how things turn out?
I need your advice please.
Celestina, Amasaman.
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Dear Celestina,
It is regrettable that this is happening to you. First of all, I would advise you to confront your husband on the nude picture he sent to you in a calm and low tone. It could be that he wasn’t sending it to anyone but it mistakenly came to you.
Your husband wouldn’t send you his nude pictures when he is living with you in the same room and share the same bed intentionally.
Don’t keep a problem to yourself and be assuming but rather inhabit the practice of confrontation and talk to him.
I hope this goes on well, all the best to you dear.
Obaa Yaa
I want to be a doctor
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I AM 17 years-old and have completed Senior High School.My aim is to become a medical doctor and carry out research into diseases which have no cures.
When I told my father of my ambitions, he was happy at first, but a few months ago, he called me and told me that he would rather want me to become a chartered accountant.
I am confused because I have never liked or understood business subjects, but I am afraid that if I refuse, my fa ther will stop looking after me.
What can I do?
Afriyie, Apam
Dear Afriyie,
YOU cannot be a chartered accountant just because your father wants you to be one.
Your interest and performance in the subjects to become a doctor must also be a deciding factor.
So take your time to explain to your father that even though you would want to please him, it will not be in your interest to do so.
If you cannot get him to change his mind, don’t give up.
Use every opportunity you might get to talk to him.
Obaa Yaa
How do I convince my upset daughter
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Just before my husband’s trip, we tried to squeeze in a quick moment of intimacy. Our children were preoccupied – one was playing outside, and the other was napping.
We didn’t lock the door, thinking it would be a brief encounter. But our 12-year-old walked in on us, which was embarrassing.
We immediately stopped and debated who should talk to her first. Meanwhile, my neighbour called, concerned that our daughter seemed upset after trying to talk to us but we were busy.
We had a heart-to-heart talk with her, explaining that our love for each other is natural. However, she didn’t respond and seemed distant.
Now, with my husband away, I feel uncomfortable around our daughter, who has become quiet and withdrawn.
Will things get better?
Asabea,
Takoradi.
Dear Asabea,
I SUGGEST you give your daughter some time. It is natural for her to feel how she is feeling, especially if it’s her first time seeing such a thing.
It could be that she might be feeling guilty and traumatised for ruining your moments.
However, I will suggest you always lock your doors when you’re about to have an intimacy.
Please teach your children how to respect privacy.
They should knock before entering other people’s rooms.
