Obaa Yaa
Is this nude picture for me?
Obaa Yaa,
We have been married for close to three years now and my husband has never sent me his nude picture before, not even when we were dating and stayed apart but now that we stay together he did.
He recently sent me his nude picture and am baffled by his actions. This act of his has got me thinking recently that my husband might be cheating on me.
I don’t know why my husband will start sending me nude pictures now that we stay together. It is possible he was sending it to someone and it mistakenly came to me instead.
I am beginning to lose the trust I have in my husband and his love for me.
Should I confront him about it or act like I don’t know what he has done and see how things turn out?
I need your advice please.
Celestina, Amasaman.
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Dear Celestina,
It is regrettable that this is happening to you. First of all, I would advise you to confront your husband on the nude picture he sent to you in a calm and low tone. It could be that he wasn’t sending it to anyone but it mistakenly came to you.
Your husband wouldn’t send you his nude pictures when he is living with you in the same room and share the same bed intentionally.
Don’t keep a problem to yourself and be assuming but rather inhabit the practice of confrontation and talk to him.
I hope this goes on well, all the best to you dear.
Obaa Yaa
Text message exposes my boyfriend
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My boyfriend told me he was attending the funeral of her late cousin outside Accra and promised to be back the next day.
Initially, the plan was that I would go with him and spend some time with his family since I have a good relationship with them.
I realised he was not comfortable about that and kept telling me that it’s a distant cousin and there was no to need join him.
He said he was going to park his car at the office and join a family bus.
My boyfriend picked a woman from Accra whom he had arranged with during the week.
I called her sister and she told me that his brother came with a lady and also secured themselves a hotel room.
Immediately he arrived, he went straight to the bath house, a lady sent a text message on his phone appreciating the good time they had together.
I read the message when he was having his bath.
Though her sister gave me every information but the text message confirmed everything.
How can he do such a thing? Why did he take another lady to the funeral and left me behind?
Abrefi, Tesano.
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Dear Abrefi,
I Understand how you are feeling at the moment because your boyfriend lied to you.
I advise you to confront your boyfriend on the allegations and let him know you have a proof.
He might be pissed off but that is exactly what you should do.
This will give you the opportunity to insist that you will attend all functions with him so that he will not have the opportunity to misbehave.
In confronting him, be calm. Don’t quarrel or nag.
Obaa Yaa
My boss is tormenting me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I have worked in a private environment in Accra for 10 years now. People talk about how stressful it is to work in a private sector but I did not believe it till I had my fair share of experience working with my new boss.
Recently, our boss was transferred and was replaced by a new boss.
In fact, I am finding it difficult to work with him.
Looking at my age, he talks to me like am a small boy and relates to me like a teacher and his pupil.
Sometimes, I feel like hitting him but it is against the rules of our company.
I currently do not have another employment opportunity. What can I do? I can’t cope with his behaviour anymore.
Joe Boy,
Ashiaman.
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Dear Joe Boy,
I am afraid you’d have to cope with your boss for the meantime. Learn to live with the ‘devil’ until you find a way about it.
Just live up to your responsibility; perform your functions to the best of your knowledge and do not misbehave towards him.
If he sees that you are competent, he would begin to respect you. Remember that respect is earned not demanded.
