Obaa Yaa
Married woman finds me suitable
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a graduate, completed the mandatory National Service but I have no job. A married woman was stranded when her car broke down in the middle of the road and I assisted in fixing the problem to her delight.
The following day, she called my phone to express her gratitude for the help I offered her the previous day. Ever since, the conservation continued and one day she invited me for launch.
She occasionally called to find out how I was doing and always asked if there was any help that she could offer.
One day, we coincidentally met at the funeral of a friend and she suggested that we go elsewhere for lunch at a lodge. There we had some drinks and food after which she complained of headache and subsequently booked a room to enable her to rest a few minutes before leaving the place. I quickly arranged for a painkiller from a nearby pharmacy, gave it to her and waited for her to recuperate.
She pleaded that I should not leave her alone in the room but stay a little longer. I suggested that she should call her husband to come to her aid but she declined, saying that she would like to be left alone.
After some minutes, she asked for a bottle of water and when I took the water to her she held my hand firmly and drew me to her on the bed. As I struggled to extricate myself from her grips, she held me tighter and whispered into my ears that she loved me and the unfortunate happened.
This incident was followed by many others at the least opportunity we had.
Though she is someone’s wife, she gives me joy and supports me financially since I am not working. I find it difficult to let her go off my grips because of the immense help she is offering me. I am beginning to be afraid of being caught by her husband and disgraced.
What should I do?
Kofi, Accra.
Dear Kofi,
You are treading on dangerous grounds and the earlier you quit this devilish attitude and spare your life, the better it will be for you.
Going out with someone’s wife is a deadly sin, nasty, dirty, unpardonable and could easily cause your life.
Remember that everybody will definitely condemn your attitude because it is not right.
The danger is that, having indulged in illicit sex for some period will make you not feel remorse of the act.
There is no need to depend on this woman for long since the ball will soon be let out of the bag, and you will soon be caught.
How will you feel if someone does this to your wife?
Obaa Yaa
My mother is stressing me.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
We have been friends for the past two years and our parents know about our relationship. Her parents have even asked me to perform the marriage customary rites.
Recently, my mother returned from the hometown and told me that she has found a girl for me to marry.
I tried to convince her that I was not interested in any girl apart from my present one, but she won’t listen.
My father, however, told me that he would support whatever decision I take.
My uncle then said that I should respect my mother’s decision and go by it.
I can’t do that because I promised to marry my girl, besides my girl has spent so much money on me when I was down financially and was not working.
Apart from that we never had any disagreement because we love each other. How do I convince my mother that she is the right girl for me.
Barima,
Bogoso
Dear Barima,
You should let your mother explain to you why she doesn’t like your current girlfriend and is ready to give you a new lady.
If your mother is currently accusing the lady of so many things try and probe further.
If you are convinced that your mother’s attitude is as a result for dislike she has for your current girl, then you must include the support of your father or a pastor.
But if you figure out that your mother is after your interest, then you and your girlfriend would need a lot of prayers. Which means the two of you, would have change your lifestyle altogether and devote yourself to prayers to get rid of whatever is going on.
It will be a great commitment but efforts will be rewarding. If you are convinced that you can handle it, then go ahead and marry your girl. Your mother will eventually come to accept her when she realises that your wife is making you happy
Obaa Yaa
Am I wicked?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I met and befriended another girl when my girlfriend travelled out of the country. I made her to understand that my first girl was more or less my wife, so marriage would be out of the question between us, and she understood.
My girl would be returning home within a few months, and this other girl is now saying that she would rather break up with me.
She also has been sending friends to talk to me and to plead on her behalf.
The girl is again saying that I am a wicked person without feelings, and that I have used her. I know that she wants me to feel guilty, but I don’t.
Am I actually wicked like she’s saying?
Efua
Swedru,
Dear Efua,
Yes, I do believe that somehow you have treated the girl badly, and the fact that you are almost man and wife does not make you guiltless, because the end result is that you only used her to pass the time of waiting for the return of your first girl.
You can at least try and be nice to her and let her go gen tly.
But don’t make things worse by prolonging the relations
