Mummy dislikes my boyfriend who feeds me

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am 17 years old and an apprentice seamstress. I have a boyfriend who is 22 years old and a mechanic.

Obaa Yaa, the problem is that my mother does not like this boy at all.

She says he is a rascal. Meanwhile, it is this same rascal who has paid for my dressmaking course and feeds me two times in a day.

He even gives me money for transportation since our place at Abeka is far from where I am currently learning.

I am disturbed because my mother shows her dislike openly to this boy. I am afraid he will just leave me and I will lose all these benefits. What should I do?

Comfort,

Abeka -,Accra.

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Dear Comfort,

If your boyfriend is truly a rascal, then your mother has a point.

She is seeing it from the angle that he might put you into trouble one day, irrespective of the things he has been doing for you.

However, if you truly believes he is genuine and loves you, I would suggest you talk to your mother in a calm manner and explain things to her.

You can politely ask your mother to give him time and study him slowly so that she would realise that he is actually not the person she perceives him to be.

Can malt make me tall?

Dear Obaa Yaa, Can malt make me tall?

I am a boy of 16 years and I have a group of friends who are taller than me. They always mock me. They say that I am too short to be in their company.

They even tell me that I spoil their chances of meeting girls because the girls do not look at them when I am in their company.

Is there any medicine which makes people tall or any exercise which can make me tall?

Is it really true that malt can make people tall? My friends say that weightlifting can also help.

Oware

Accra.

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Dear Oware,

People who make you unhappy do not qualify to be called friends, and your first worry should be how to leave their company.

You are only 16 years, and there is still a great chance that you might add a few inches to your height.

But if it doesn’t happen, don’t let it be a problem because it not how tall or short a person is which matters, but what a person achieves.

There are no known drugs or drinks (Malt included) which can increase a person’s height.

Exercises and weightlifting will not make you tall, but they can at least make you fit and healthy.

I want a divorce

Dear Obaa Yaa,

After two years of marriage, I have realised that I made a big mistake in marrying my wife. She has become very different from the woman I knew and married; she is so uncompromising.

I have met another girl who is just the type of girl I should have married. She agrees with me on everything and does not harass me the way my wife does.

My wife will not agree to a divorce and my girl refuses to be a second wife. I am caught in a dilemma, because both my wife and my girlfriend are making my life hell. I feel very tempted to leave them both.

Owusu,

Tafo.

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Dear Owusu

Maybe you should give your marriage another chance. For all you know, your wife is just as unhappy as you are but she is trying to live with the situation.

Your girlfriend’s attitude now is different from your wife’s and that should tell you that no one is perfect. It should also prove to you that when people are not happy, they behave differently.

Try and communicate with your wife more and discuss your problems no matter how little it might look.

If you make the effort to keep your marriage, you might be surprised at the positive changes that will take place in your life.