Obaa Yaa
My bad breath is embarrassing me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
We are in a healthy relationship, both of us are working and if things go as planned, we shall be getting married pretty soon.
Signals from relatives, friends and close associates attest to their endorsement of our relationship.
Despite these positive signs, l have bad breath which could pose problems in my marriage. A couple of months ago, he attempted kissing me but suddenly stopped without assigning any reasons to his action.
He puts on the ceiling fan whenever l visit him and he leaves it on until l leave his place.
What step should l take?
Bernice, Accra.
Dear Bernice,
Bad breath which is also known as halitosis is embarrassing and leaves the victim uncomfortable. Periodontal disease or gum disease, constipation, yeast infections, diet and dry mouth among others are the causes of bad breath.
This is primarily a medical problem which demands that you put aside unnecessary fear and seek the assistance of a specialist doctor.
There are qualified doctors and certified products available to address your problem.
It is possible your fiancé has kept mute and would not like to embarrass you by commenting about it.
Obaa Yaa
Text message exposes my boyfriend
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My boyfriend told me he was attending the funeral of her late cousin outside Accra and promised to be back the next day.
Initially, the plan was that I would go with him and spend some time with his family since I have a good relationship with them.
I realised he was not comfortable about that and kept telling me that it’s a distant cousin and there was no to need join him.
He said he was going to park his car at the office and join a family bus.
My boyfriend picked a woman from Accra whom he had arranged with during the week.
I called her sister and she told me that his brother came with a lady and also secured themselves a hotel room.
Immediately he arrived, he went straight to the bath house, a lady sent a text message on his phone appreciating the good time they had together.
I read the message when he was having his bath.
Though her sister gave me every information but the text message confirmed everything.
How can he do such a thing? Why did he take another lady to the funeral and left me behind?
Abrefi, Tesano.
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Dear Abrefi,
I Understand how you are feeling at the moment because your boyfriend lied to you.
I advise you to confront your boyfriend on the allegations and let him know you have a proof.
He might be pissed off but that is exactly what you should do.
This will give you the opportunity to insist that you will attend all functions with him so that he will not have the opportunity to misbehave.
In confronting him, be calm. Don’t quarrel or nag.
Obaa Yaa
My boss is tormenting me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I have worked in a private environment in Accra for 10 years now. People talk about how stressful it is to work in a private sector but I did not believe it till I had my fair share of experience working with my new boss.
Recently, our boss was transferred and was replaced by a new boss.
In fact, I am finding it difficult to work with him.
Looking at my age, he talks to me like am a small boy and relates to me like a teacher and his pupil.
Sometimes, I feel like hitting him but it is against the rules of our company.
I currently do not have another employment opportunity. What can I do? I can’t cope with his behaviour anymore.
Joe Boy,
Ashiaman.
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Dear Joe Boy,
I am afraid you’d have to cope with your boss for the meantime. Learn to live with the ‘devil’ until you find a way about it.
Just live up to your responsibility; perform your functions to the best of your knowledge and do not misbehave towards him.
If he sees that you are competent, he would begin to respect you. Remember that respect is earned not demanded.
