Obaa Yaa

My boyfriend wants to commit suicide

Dear Obaa Yaa

I am deeply in love with a young man for the past four years. Two years ago, he lost his job and he has become worried ever since.

My lover has written applications to many places in search of a new job but he has not received a reply to any of them as of now.

Although my business is booming, I cannot cater for our needs while the monthly bills keep piling up. This is taking a toll on him.

He is depressed because he talks about ending his life to enable me to get another man who will support me financially.

I don’t want to lose him because I love him.

Please what should I do?

Mary, Koforidua.

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Dear Mary,

I appreciate the love you have for your lover and the support given him since he lost his job. This is the time you must show him more love and try to condition his mind.

Since the man is the head of the family, he finds himself in an awkward situation where he rather depends on you for his daily sustenance. He will definitely not feel comfortable with the condition in which he finds himself.

Continue to do your best in supporting him and calm him down and tell him things will definitely change for the better one day.

Since your business is booming, why don’t you consider expanding it so that the two of you can handle it for more profit? This will affirm the saying that when one door closes another one opens.

Let him understand that it is God who has given him life and he is the only one who has the power to take it back at the appropriate time, so he should not consider suicide as the solution to his problem.

Obaa Yaa

Can malt make me tall?

Dear Obaa Yaa, Can malt make me tall?

I am a boy of 16 years and I have a group of friends who are taller than me. They always mock me. They say that I am too short to be in their company.

They even tell me that I spoil their chances of meeting girls because the girls do not look at them when I am in their company.

Is there any medicine which makes people tall or any exercise which can make me tall?

Is it really true that malt can make people tall? My friends say that weightlifting can also help.

Oware

Accra.

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Dear Oware,

People who make you unhappy do not qualify to be called friends, and your first worry should be how to leave their company.

You are only 16 years, and there is still a great chance that you might add a few inches to your height.

But if it doesn’t happen, don’t let it be a problem because it not how tall or short a person is which matters, but what a person achieves.

There are no known drugs or drinks (Malt included) which can increase a person’s height.

Exercises and weightlifting will not make you tall, but they can at least make you fit and healthy.

Obaa Yaa

I want a divorce

Dear Obaa Yaa,

After two years of marriage, I have realised that I made a big mistake in marrying my wife. She has become very different from the woman I knew and married; she is so uncompromising.

I have met another girl who is just the type of girl I should have married. She agrees with me on everything and does not harass me the way my wife does.

My wife will not agree to a divorce and my girl refuses to be a second wife. I am caught in a dilemma, because both my wife and my girlfriend are making my life hell. I feel very tempted to leave them both.

Owusu,

Tafo.

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Dear Owusu

Maybe you should give your marriage another chance. For all you know, your wife is just as unhappy as you are but she is trying to live with the situation.

Your girlfriend’s attitude now is different from your wife’s and that should tell you that no one is perfect. It should also prove to you that when people are not happy, they behave differently.

Try and communicate with your wife more and discuss your problems no matter how little it might look.

If you make the effort to keep your marriage, you might be surprised at the positive changes that will take place in your life.