Obaa Yaa
My cheating girlfriend wants me back
Dear Obaa Yaa,
A girl I dated for over three years cheated on me with my friend and I ended the relationship.
My pain was not because she cheated on me, because I also cheated on her once and she forgave and stayed with me after pleading with her.
What I couldn’t stand was the fact that she slept with somebody I knew and someone I least expected to do this to his friend’s girl.
Now this girl is back; following me everywhere and seeking for forgiveness and come back to me.
I have assured her of my forgiveness and that I have nothing against her and my friend but she is not convinced.
She has put me in a tight corner with a request to take her back because she did same for me.
The difficulty is that the sight of her brings back those memories.
Quarmyne Seth, Odumase
Dear Seth,
I must say that I applaud you for forgiving your girlfriend and your friend especially when she forgave you when you cheated too.
I would, however, advise you against accepting her again because you would be tempted to cheat on her again.
In your situation now, trust in your relationship is no more. Just forgive her and move on. It doesn’t take a day to forget someone, especially when you both have memories together. It could take a longer time so it’s up to you to know what you actually want and go for it.
See what makes you busy and happy like going out with your friends, listening to music, going for parties, trips, just to get busy. It can help you recover.
Also, be very careful bout your friend too because he has betrayed your trust.
Obaa Yaa
Can malt make me tall?
Dear Obaa Yaa, Can malt make me tall?
I am a boy of 16 years and I have a group of friends who are taller than me. They always mock me. They say that I am too short to be in their company.
They even tell me that I spoil their chances of meeting girls because the girls do not look at them when I am in their company.
Is there any medicine which makes people tall or any exercise which can make me tall?
Is it really true that malt can make people tall? My friends say that weightlifting can also help.
Oware
Accra.
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Dear Oware,
People who make you unhappy do not qualify to be called friends, and your first worry should be how to leave their company.
You are only 16 years, and there is still a great chance that you might add a few inches to your height.
But if it doesn’t happen, don’t let it be a problem because it not how tall or short a person is which matters, but what a person achieves.
There are no known drugs or drinks (Malt included) which can increase a person’s height.
Exercises and weightlifting will not make you tall, but they can at least make you fit and healthy.
Obaa Yaa
I want a divorce
Dear Obaa Yaa,
After two years of marriage, I have realised that I made a big mistake in marrying my wife. She has become very different from the woman I knew and married; she is so uncompromising.
I have met another girl who is just the type of girl I should have married. She agrees with me on everything and does not harass me the way my wife does.
My wife will not agree to a divorce and my girl refuses to be a second wife. I am caught in a dilemma, because both my wife and my girlfriend are making my life hell. I feel very tempted to leave them both.
Owusu,
Tafo.
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Dear Owusu
Maybe you should give your marriage another chance. For all you know, your wife is just as unhappy as you are but she is trying to live with the situation.
Your girlfriend’s attitude now is different from your wife’s and that should tell you that no one is perfect. It should also prove to you that when people are not happy, they behave differently.
Try and communicate with your wife more and discuss your problems no matter how little it might look.
If you make the effort to keep your marriage, you might be surprised at the positive changes that will take place in your life.
