My friend has taken over my girl friend

Dear Obaa Yaa,

Sometime ago, I met a pretty girl, but I was too shy to approach her, so I asked a friend to talk to her on my behalf.

My friend came back and told me that after talking to the girl, he learned that she was no good so I should forget about her.

My friend, who is a born again, is always in the girl’s company. When I tackled him about it the first time, he told me that he was trying to get her to change.

They are almost inseparable now and my friend has been avoiding me. I want to confront him in the presence of the girl and embarrass him.

Will I be justified in my action?

Opoku Oware, Accra.

Dear Opoku Oware,

I WOULD not resort to any confrontations if I were you; it will only make you more miserable.

Admittedly, your friend did not behave well because in a way, he has betrayed you.

But don’t forget that he was under no obligation to chat up the girl for you, so don’t blame him.

The next time you see a girl that you fancy, just teem up confidence and boldness and walk up to her.

Pastors take too much money from members

Dear Obaa Yaa,

A FRIEND invited me to his church a few weeks ago and I was embarrassed at the way the priest demanded money from the congregation.

Will God bless such offerings extracted from church goers?

Etornam,

Volta Region.

Dear Etornam,

It is true that some churches demand money from their congregation. But it is also a fact that some of these churches uses these funds to build proper places of worship.

Utilities like water and electricity bills plus certain allowances or salaries of full –time workers in the church are also settled with this money.

Indeed if these money is put to proper use, it will enhance God’s work, and contributors would be blessed.

But if the money is misused, the people may think they are deceiving the congregation, but they cannot deceive God.

I can’t make a choice

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am a 40-year old banker and doing so well financially. I have a side business and I own two houses at Adenta. I have two girls in my life and I value each one for who they are. I want to settle down this year but I’m finding it difficult to make a choice.

One is financially stable, hardworking but disrespectful. The other is jobless, obedient and dull.

I love both of them and I am finding it difficult to choose. Should I marry one and keep one as a friend or I should leave them all.

They are all very beautiful. I am confused.

Kwansima,

Elmina.

Dear

I don’t believe that you are serious about marriage. I strongly believe you don’t love both of them, because you will never have a second thought when you love someone.

Also, I don’t believe that the girls are as daft as you want to portray.

For instance, what makes you think they are yours to pick and choose what roles they should play?

You are old enough to know what you want and what will be best for you. In as much as the ladies are pretty, each of them have different qualities you also want.

If I were you, I would propose and find out which of the girls would have you.