Obaa Yaa
My friend’s girlfriend is enticing me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
We have been good friends from our childhood days, primary school through to the tertiary level and there has been no problem.
During one of our long vacations, my friend introduced me to his girlfriend and further explained to me that, they had planned to marry after they had secured permanent jobs.
I was happy about this union and secretly prayed that they should grow in love and be committed to each other. After some weeks, I discovered that this lady had developed a special affection for me and always praised me for the least thing I did.
Later she started making advances at me and tried on many occasions that I have an affair with her but promised that she would not tell my friend about it.
Despite her repeated insistence, I have not yielded to her demands and she has developed hatred for me and kept telling lies about me. What should I do now?
Thomas-Accra.
Dear Thomas,
You have shown by your character that you can come out victorious when subjected to a serious test.
Being loyal to your friend no matter the circumstances or conditions, means that you are a trusted, true and dedicated friend.
Since you have discovered the true character of the lady, you must keep it to yourself and be observant. You should not be the one responsible for their separation, else your friend will think you are envious of their relationship.
It will definitely get to a time when this girl’s true character will be exposed and your friend will make a decision whether to continue with her or not. This is the only way you can keep your long friendship intact.
Obaa Yaa
Text message exposes my boyfriend
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My boyfriend told me he was attending the funeral of her late cousin outside Accra and promised to be back the next day.
Initially, the plan was that I would go with him and spend some time with his family since I have a good relationship with them.
I realised he was not comfortable about that and kept telling me that it’s a distant cousin and there was no to need join him.
He said he was going to park his car at the office and join a family bus.
My boyfriend picked a woman from Accra whom he had arranged with during the week.
I called her sister and she told me that his brother came with a lady and also secured themselves a hotel room.
Immediately he arrived, he went straight to the bath house, a lady sent a text message on his phone appreciating the good time they had together.
I read the message when he was having his bath.
Though her sister gave me every information but the text message confirmed everything.
How can he do such a thing? Why did he take another lady to the funeral and left me behind?
Abrefi, Tesano.
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Dear Abrefi,
I Understand how you are feeling at the moment because your boyfriend lied to you.
I advise you to confront your boyfriend on the allegations and let him know you have a proof.
He might be pissed off but that is exactly what you should do.
This will give you the opportunity to insist that you will attend all functions with him so that he will not have the opportunity to misbehave.
In confronting him, be calm. Don’t quarrel or nag.
Obaa Yaa
My boss is tormenting me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I have worked in a private environment in Accra for 10 years now. People talk about how stressful it is to work in a private sector but I did not believe it till I had my fair share of experience working with my new boss.
Recently, our boss was transferred and was replaced by a new boss.
In fact, I am finding it difficult to work with him.
Looking at my age, he talks to me like am a small boy and relates to me like a teacher and his pupil.
Sometimes, I feel like hitting him but it is against the rules of our company.
I currently do not have another employment opportunity. What can I do? I can’t cope with his behaviour anymore.
Joe Boy,
Ashiaman.
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Dear Joe Boy,
I am afraid you’d have to cope with your boss for the meantime. Learn to live with the ‘devil’ until you find a way about it.
Just live up to your responsibility; perform your functions to the best of your knowledge and do not misbehave towards him.
If he sees that you are competent, he would begin to respect you. Remember that respect is earned not demanded.
