Obaa Yaa
My husband declines medical check up
Dear ObaaYaa,
We have been married for six years and l cannot remember the month in which l missed my menstrual period. I had undergone medical examinations at the hospital and the results were the same that there was no problem with me.
Based on the outcome of the results, the doctor requested that my husband should report at the hospital to undergo the appropriate tests to ascertain the problem, but he would not listen to my plea and the insistence of the doctor to go to the hospital.
My greatest concern is the pressure his family is pilling on me for a baby.
I am confused about the conduct of my husband and do not know what to do.
Should l reveal the secret to his family about his refusal to go for the test at the hospital?
Gladys, Accra.
Dear Gladys,
I share in your frustration and the incessant pressure on you though it is not your fault. Irrespective of the difficulties being encountered, it is too early for you to throw your hands in desperation.
Since the challenges are daunting, you have to explore or exhaust the available avenues in the marriage to resolve what seems to be going wrong.
This is a dicey issue which must be handled with great care otherwise it will explode and possibly cause the disintegration of your marriage. Though the pressure keeps coming, let the secret be between you and your husband. It is likely the family is equally pilling pressure on him as well, only that he has decided not to mention it to you.
You have to employ the tricks under your sleeves, combined with love and convince him not to be afraid but go to the hospital.
It is my belief that if he is in dire need of fathering a child, he will go for the check.
Obaa Yaa
Text message exposes my boyfriend
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My boyfriend told me he was attending the funeral of her late cousin outside Accra and promised to be back the next day.
Initially, the plan was that I would go with him and spend some time with his family since I have a good relationship with them.
I realised he was not comfortable about that and kept telling me that it’s a distant cousin and there was no to need join him.
He said he was going to park his car at the office and join a family bus.
My boyfriend picked a woman from Accra whom he had arranged with during the week.
I called her sister and she told me that his brother came with a lady and also secured themselves a hotel room.
Immediately he arrived, he went straight to the bath house, a lady sent a text message on his phone appreciating the good time they had together.
I read the message when he was having his bath.
Though her sister gave me every information but the text message confirmed everything.
How can he do such a thing? Why did he take another lady to the funeral and left me behind?
Abrefi, Tesano.
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Dear Abrefi,
I Understand how you are feeling at the moment because your boyfriend lied to you.
I advise you to confront your boyfriend on the allegations and let him know you have a proof.
He might be pissed off but that is exactly what you should do.
This will give you the opportunity to insist that you will attend all functions with him so that he will not have the opportunity to misbehave.
In confronting him, be calm. Don’t quarrel or nag.
Obaa Yaa
My boss is tormenting me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I have worked in a private environment in Accra for 10 years now. People talk about how stressful it is to work in a private sector but I did not believe it till I had my fair share of experience working with my new boss.
Recently, our boss was transferred and was replaced by a new boss.
In fact, I am finding it difficult to work with him.
Looking at my age, he talks to me like am a small boy and relates to me like a teacher and his pupil.
Sometimes, I feel like hitting him but it is against the rules of our company.
I currently do not have another employment opportunity. What can I do? I can’t cope with his behaviour anymore.
Joe Boy,
Ashiaman.
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Dear Joe Boy,
I am afraid you’d have to cope with your boss for the meantime. Learn to live with the ‘devil’ until you find a way about it.
Just live up to your responsibility; perform your functions to the best of your knowledge and do not misbehave towards him.
If he sees that you are competent, he would begin to respect you. Remember that respect is earned not demanded.
