Obaa Yaa
My husband feels too shy for my liking
Dear ObaaYaa,
Our marriage is blessed with a child and things are going on well with us. All this while, l have realised that my husband is the shy-looking type who finds it difficult to stand up when issues crop up among his peers.
During little domestic squabbles, he will hardly talk to explain his point and it looks as though l am the one who talks too much or the one who is all the time causing trouble.
I feel uneasy whenever my husband fails to defend the family or himself in public, a situation which forces me to step in to speak.
Since he is the man and the head of the family, he should sit up and do what men are capable of doing but he woefully fails in this direction and l am always embarrassed.
I am contemplating leaving the marriage since the embarrassment is ceaselessly mounting.
Dorothy, Koforidua.
Dear Dorothy,
I don’t think your issue should be considered the type which should warrant a divorce. I can discern from your letter that your husband is a quiet person who finds it difficult to talk at home, let alone in public.
He is the type of person who keeps matters within and would not like to voice out his concerns. In view of that you must try to cope with his attitude since that is his nature.
What you ought to do is to consider yourself blessed since this is a shortcoming you can easily cope with so long as you remain a couple.
Others have serious challenges in their marriages, like enduring severe beatings and other types of spousal abuses, yet they still move on.
Obaa Yaa
I am in love with a married man
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 27- year- old lady who has fallen in love with a married man. I met this man on a business trip in koforidua of the Eastern Region.
I fell for him at first sight, though I knew he was married because he had a ring on his finger.
He took my number and started calling to check up on me. He is super nice, caring, soft spoken and gentle.
I began to develop feelings for him because he had all the qualities I needed in a man. He proposed to me and I accepted it.
Even though I knew he was married, it didn’t stop me from dating him. We started dating and he has been very supportive and loving.
I am madly in love with him that I wish he wasn’t married, yet I do not also want to break his home. I am doing everything possible to help him hide this affair from his wife.
I am not happy dating a married man but I love him. Please what should I do?
Worried lady, Alajo.
Dear worried lady,
I an happy you said you didn’t want to break someone’s home in the first place. It is rather unfortunate you have fallen in love with a married man.
You are a very beautiful young lady and everyman will be willing to settle down with a young lady.
Try as much as possible to avoid his calls and stay away from him.
Stay away from his lane and be careful. Mind you, you are a woman and there is Karma.
Obaa Yaa
My wife feeds me with her sugar daddy’s money
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am married to a beautiful young lady who is really very industrious. I lost my job recently and this woman has been taking care of me.
However, my friends keep telling me that she has a sugar daddy who gives her money.
I am inclined to believe this because the kind of money she brings home is far more than her pay as a typist.
The taught of this is even killing me softly. I don’t want to investigate this allegation because I am afraid of what I may see.
I love her so much. What should I do?
Nene,Odumase.
Dear Nene
You must act like a man. A man who loves his wife cannot allow another man to have her no matter their circumstance. The fact that you have lost your job doesn’t mean you should sell your dignity and integrity.
Be bold and confront your wife about the stories you are hearing about this sugar daddy stuff. You better stop her and the money she has been bringing home for your upkeep, or else she might also be bringing it for your obituary.
Investigate the stories and take steps to stop her from this adulterous behaviour on her part.
Make sure you get a job and be the man you are supposed to be.
