Obaa Yaa
My MoMo account is empty
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I always wish a happy new year to a couple of friends. This has become a tradition not because of the gains I get from them but rather these friends are very supportive and I always want to appreciate their gestures.
Interestingly, any time I call or send those wishes, they will ask whether my telephone number was still registered with Mobile Money (MoMo), which I always respond in the affirmative with smiles. Then after some few minutes, my message tones will beep with a MoMo alert.
I sent messages last year but the response was “Many Happy Returns.”
I am confused because up till now, they are yet to ask whether my contact is registered ‘MoMo-wise.’
I feel like asking why they have failed to perform that yearly ritual because something tells me all is not well with them. May be through that I will know whether they are facing financial challenges where I can be of help to them.
Should I proceed with my plan?
Max Quarmyne, Ablekuma
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Dear Quarmyne,
There could be various reasons for their inability to send you money this year. They could be facing some economic challenges or other unforeseen circumstances.
It is also possible that they have forgotten.
I would advise you to stop relying on your friends and having high expectations of them. Instead, place your trust in God. As the Bible says, “Cursed is the one who trusts in man, who depends on flesh for his strength, and whose heart turns away from the Lord.”
Also, I would urge you to find something to do to support yourself financially in order to avoid feeling so disappointed in case they do not deliver as they did this year.
Obaa Yaa
My boss is tormenting me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I have worked in a private environment in Accra for 10 years now. People talk about how stressful it is to work in a private sector but I did not believe it till I had my fair share of experience working with my new boss.
Recently, our boss was transferred and was replaced by a new boss.
In fact, I am finding it difficult to work with him.
Looking at my age, he talks to me like am a small boy and relates to me like a teacher and his pupil.
Sometimes, I feel like hitting him but it is against the rules of our company.
I currently do not have another employment opportunity. What can I do? I can’t cope with his behaviour anymore.
Joe Boy,
Ashiaman.
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Dear Joe Boy,
I am afraid you’d have to cope with your boss for the meantime. Learn to live with the ‘devil’ until you find a way about it.
Just live up to your responsibility; perform your functions to the best of your knowledge and do not misbehave towards him.
If he sees that you are competent, he would begin to respect you. Remember that respect is earned not demanded.
Obaa Yaa
I am in a state of dilemma
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My name is Owusu and I am 35- years -old while my wife is 30 years. We have been married for five years but been together for seven years. We have two children together and they are doing so well in their academics.
My company had a conference at a hotel in Kumasi and four of us from my department were selected to represent the company.
During lunch, I decided to take a stroll and enjoy the scenery around the hotel since it’s my first time there.
As I strolled around, I was shocked to see my wife step out of a car with a young man. They started walking towards the reception of the hotel. The man placed his arms around her waist and they seemed to be enjoying each other’s company.
I froze and felt bad. I wanted to shout and approach them but when I opened my mouth, no words came out and my feet were too heavy to drag. I just watched them in awe as they checked in at the reception and disappeared from my sight.
I am in my mother’s house now, I do not know how I will face her if I eventually go home. I told her my mom needs help with a few things at the house so I will lend a helping hand and also sleep over. I haven’t told anyone but my mom suspects that something is wrong.
I am down right now, my marriage and home seem to be coming to an end. Please what should I do?
Sakyi, Adenta.
Dear Sakyi,
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I understand how you feel and I plead with you to continue to be patient with your wife.
Please try and go home to have a word with her concerning the incident you saw.
Give her the benefit of doubt to explain what she was exactly doing there at that time with the man.
I am pleading with you to give her a second chance but most importantly, kindly inform her parents about it to talk to her.
You can seek the help of a professional counselor and go for therapies with her.
However, if you are not comfortable staying with her, please part ways with her peacefully. You can co-parent your daughter.
