Obaa Yaa
My Sister doesn’t trust me
`Dear Obaa Yaa,
My sister and I have been living together peacefully for a number of years and we do everything together.
She was my best friend and confidant, but suddenly, everything changed when she saw me conversing and smiling with her boyfriend.
She suspects that I have been going out with him for which reason she is now demanding that l leave her house.
I have explained to her several times about my innocence, yet she would not listen. This means she does not trust me.
I am confused and don’t know what to do, since I have nowhere to go. Please I need your help.
Agnes, Accra.
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Dear Agnes,
This is a matter between you and your God, and your conscience will bear you out.
There have been instances when people developed good and genuine relations with the boyfriends or girlfriends of their relatives. In such instances, sincerity played a significant role in the relationship.
Unfortunately, there were other instances that people who defied morality, exploited the trust reposed in them and misbehaved.
Some people who are over-jealous so far as issues pertaining to relationship is concerned, have acted without judging matters rightly.
The attitude of your sister suggests she is extremely jealous and does not trust you and her boyfriend. On the contrary, could it be that her action is due to your past behaviour?
The best she could have done was to find out from her boyfriend and interview you to ascertain the truth.
Since you maintain your innocence in this case, inform your parents to enable them to intervene as early as possible.
Obaa Yaa
Text message exposes my boyfriend
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My boyfriend told me he was attending the funeral of her late cousin outside Accra and promised to be back the next day.
Initially, the plan was that I would go with him and spend some time with his family since I have a good relationship with them.
I realised he was not comfortable about that and kept telling me that it’s a distant cousin and there was no to need join him.
He said he was going to park his car at the office and join a family bus.
My boyfriend picked a woman from Accra whom he had arranged with during the week.
I called her sister and she told me that his brother came with a lady and also secured themselves a hotel room.
Immediately he arrived, he went straight to the bath house, a lady sent a text message on his phone appreciating the good time they had together.
I read the message when he was having his bath.
Though her sister gave me every information but the text message confirmed everything.
How can he do such a thing? Why did he take another lady to the funeral and left me behind?
Abrefi, Tesano.
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Dear Abrefi,
I Understand how you are feeling at the moment because your boyfriend lied to you.
I advise you to confront your boyfriend on the allegations and let him know you have a proof.
He might be pissed off but that is exactly what you should do.
This will give you the opportunity to insist that you will attend all functions with him so that he will not have the opportunity to misbehave.
In confronting him, be calm. Don’t quarrel or nag.
Obaa Yaa
My boss is tormenting me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I have worked in a private environment in Accra for 10 years now. People talk about how stressful it is to work in a private sector but I did not believe it till I had my fair share of experience working with my new boss.
Recently, our boss was transferred and was replaced by a new boss.
In fact, I am finding it difficult to work with him.
Looking at my age, he talks to me like am a small boy and relates to me like a teacher and his pupil.
Sometimes, I feel like hitting him but it is against the rules of our company.
I currently do not have another employment opportunity. What can I do? I can’t cope with his behaviour anymore.
Joe Boy,
Ashiaman.
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Dear Joe Boy,
I am afraid you’d have to cope with your boss for the meantime. Learn to live with the ‘devil’ until you find a way about it.
Just live up to your responsibility; perform your functions to the best of your knowledge and do not misbehave towards him.
If he sees that you are competent, he would begin to respect you. Remember that respect is earned not demanded.
