Obaa Yaa
My Sister doesn’t trust me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My sister and I have been living together peacefully for a number of years and we do everything together.
She was my best friend and confidant, but suddenly, everything changed when she saw me conversing and smiling with her boyfriend.
She suspects that I have been going out with him for which reason she is now demanding that l leave her house.
I have explained to her several times about my innocence, yet she would not listen. This means she does not trust me.
I am confused and don’t know what to do, since I have nowhere to go. Please I need your help.
Agnes, Accra.
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Dear Agnes,
This is a matter between you and your God, and your conscience will bear you out.
There have been instances when people developed good and genuine relations with the boyfriends or girlfriends of their relatives. In such instances, sincerity played a significant role in the relationship.
Unfortunately, there were other instances that people who defied morality, exploited the trust reposed in them and misbehaved.
Some people who are over-jealous so far as issues pertaining to relationship is concerned, have acted without judging matters rightly.
The attitude of your sister suggests she is extremely jealous and does not trust you and her boyfriend. On the contrary, could it be that her action is due to your past behaviour?
The best she could have done was to find out from her boyfriend and interview you to ascertain the truth.
Since you maintain your innocence in this case, inform your parents to enable them to intervene as early as possible.
Obaa Yaa
They get on my nerves
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Both my wife and I are middle school leavers, but because her brothers are overseas, she goes abroad regularly. Because of that she has joined a certain class of people who believe that my wife is better educated than I am and therefore, look down on me.
The way she sometimes communicates with me is so annoying and makes me feel sad.
I overheard one of them asking my wife how she could marry an illiterate like me, and surprisingly she laughed at it as if it was a huge joke. When I confronted my wife afterwards, she denied everything.
I don’t want to divorce my wife, but her friends get on my nerves.
Please advise me.
Kwaku Teye, Konogo
Dear Kwaku Teye,
The current state of your wife is making her feel she is better than you. I can imagine how you feel. It is not fair for your wife to encourage her friends to make derogatory remarks about you.
However, do not make an issue out of it, especially as your wife has denied it.
I will advise you to talk to your wife to stay away from her friends if she really needs her marriage.
I will also plead with you to further your education if you have the means and resources.
Obaa Yaa
My friend has taken over my girl friend
Dear Obaa Yaa,
SOMETIME ago, I met a pretty girl, but I was too shy to approach her, so I asked a friend to talk to her on my behalf.
My friend came back and told me that after talking to the girl, he learned that she was no good so I should forget about her.
My friend, who is a born again, is always in the girl’s company. When I tackled him about it the first time, he told me that he was trying to get her to change.
They are almost inseparable now and my friend has been avoiding me. I want to confront him in the presence of the girl and embarrass him.
Will I be justified in my action?
Opoku Oware, Accra.
Dear Opoku Oware,
I WOULD not resort to any confrontations if I were you; it will only make you more miserable.
Admittedly, your friend did not behave well because in a way, he has betrayed you.
But don’t forget that he was under no obligation to chat up the girl for you, so don’t blame him.
The next time you see a girl that you fancy, just teem up confidence and boldness and walk up to her.