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My wife has been discussing me

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I and my wife have been married for five years now, although we have known each other for over three years.

She is a banker and I am a journalist. We have two beautiful daughters.

The problem is that her childhood female friend who is not married yet has been worrying me to sleep with her. I told my wife about her actions and how she comes into our apartment whenever my wife is not around.

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I personally confronted her and she told me my wife was the cause. She said my wife keeps telling her how good I am in bed.

Is it right for a partner to discuss a husband to a friend?

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Dear Jeff

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You have a very interesting but serious issue at hand.

For your wife to discuss such issues with a friend suggest they are very close and trust each other.

But that notwithstanding, it is not enough to make her friend take such an action.

In our clandestine moments, friends chat about a lot of personal issues based on the trust that exist between them so I would not blame his wife much.

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My issue is with the way her friend reacted. It means she has always been ‘crushing’ on you but never mustered the courage to tell your wife.

I think you did very well by avoiding her and making your wife aware of what was happening. She will now know the kind of ‘serpent’ she’s keeping as a friend.

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Obaa Yaa

My husband is always in the bedroom

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I AM 30 and he is 45. We have been married for three years now. The problem I have with my husband is that when he is not at work and he’s home, and always in the bedroom.

You can never see my husband in the sitting room chatting with the chil­dren or with me.

And Obaa Yaa, he only tells the children and I that he loves us when he is tipsy or drunk. That is the only time you will see him in a conversation with us.

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Do you believe he really means it when he says he loves us in that mood?

Baaba,

Agona Nyakrom.

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Dear Baaba,

Generally, there are many types of personality in everyone and I hope your husband is an intro­vert. This means he is not the outgo­ing type and wants to keep to himself either reading or listening to music.

And of course, such a person would need something to stimulate him to be open, expressive and nice, and I guess a little alcohol is doing just that.

If he is not abusing the alcohol, then there is nothing much more to worry about. Be loving and let him be the person God has made him.

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Ask the children to go to him any­time he is lonely to share jokes and help them with their homework.

Encourage him to be more com­municative and do not nag about him because that will worsen the problem.

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Obaa Yaa

Labour ward stories scare me

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I JUST missed my period and I know I am pregnant but I am afraid of the repercussions.

It isn’t that there is no money to take care of the pregnancy, but Obaa Yaa, I have heard about all the things that happen at the labour ward.

I want to abort the pregnancy and be fully prepared before get­ting pregnant again.

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I understand it’s a very painful experience and I can’t stand it.

Takyibea,

Eastern Region.

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Dear Takyibea,

YOU have not written your age in the letter so it will be dif­ficult to advise you on proce­dures to take.

You have also not told me whether or not you are married.

If you are above 21 and married, do not go and abort.

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Many women have aborted preg­nancies and ended up as barren. Besides, abortion is criminal and you can be prosecuted for it.

If there is money to look after the pregnancy, go ahead and deliv­er the baby.

Those stories you hear of labour pains should not scare or frighten you.

God takes every woman through it and there is nothing to postpone about it. Unless you do not want to have a baby, you must forget the labour ward stories and be hopeful.

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The baby will bring you joy and open more doors for you because children are blessings from God.

Don’t listen to any negative news about child birth.

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