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 My wife likes funerals too much

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I have been married to my wife for 10 years now. Before we got married, she was an angel but now she has no time for me and our children.

Her interest now is attending funer­als and outdooring. She can even stay at funerals for three days.

In her absence, she makes no ar­rangement for our feeding and we rely on kenkey, fish and pepper.

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I do not have a problem with her go­ing for these events but my concern is she should make arrangements for me and the children before leaving.

This, I believe is not too much a task to ask from my wife.

I need advice on how to make her put a stop to this, please.

Kofi Zakutu,

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Yendi

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Dear Zakutu,

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You did not state in your letter whether you have complained about your wife’s craze for funer­als.

In any case, engage her in a chat but if that fails, summon her before her parents and lodge a formal complaint.

I believe if she is talked to with seri­ousness, she will limit her unwarranted outings.

I hope you have not done anything to her which is making her behave the way she is doing now

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Obaa Yaa

She doesn’t respect her mother

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I visited my girlfriend at home, and I was a witness to a hot exchange be­tween her and the mother.

In fact, my girl used such words on the mother that I was compelled to hit her to keep her quiet. She later told me that her mother made her to behave like that.

The surprising thing is that she seemed to be such a respectful person, and was always very polite to my mother and even help her in the kitchen when she visits me.

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I have told her in plain language that our relationship is off, but she keeps begging and she has even promised not to quarrel with her mother again.

But I can’t forget the scene I saw and the fact is that, it was not the first time.

Do you think she can change?

I love her, but I want my children to have a respectful mother.

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Agbesi, keta.

Dear Agbesi,

LET me say this to you, you took the right decision in ending the relation­ship because she might not change. However, that is for her to work it out, so don’t let it be your problem.

Even the Bible in Exodus 20:12 has a lot to say against children who are disre­spectful to their parents.

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You are lucky you found out in time the sort of person she is.

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Obaa Yaa

He wants me to be his cousin

Dear Obaa Yaa,

My husband and I got married shortly after we completed se­nior high school. My mother then bought a ticket for him to go abroad where he went and stayed with my brother.

He went through some kind of marriage over there in order to get a good job, or so he said, and he asked me to be patient.

A few weeks ago, my husband wrote to say that he was coming home with his wife, and that I should pretend to be a cousin. I also heard they have a child.

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I can’t do what he wants me to, even though everyone, includ­ing my mother thinks I should.

And I don’t want to be his wife only when he comes home. I want to join him over there because that was the arrangement.

Akweley, Accra

Dear Akweley,

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Don’t let anyone force you into doing anything that you don’t want to do. If you can’t pretend, then don’t try.When you meet your husband, it is important to let him know how you feel about the arrangement.

And you will have to come to an agreement as to whether or not you want to continue with your marriage.

Whatever decision you come up to will not be easy for you, but do make sure that it is what is best for you.

• Kwabena kwabena in

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