Obaa Yaa
New girlfriend attracts me more
Dear ObaaYaa,
We were both students in the university and though we read different courses, with time, we later became very close to each other.
The love we developed for each other grew to a stage where we could not resist our inner feelings and she became pregnant. Though embarrassed initially, I gathered courage and pleaded with her to abort the pregnancy since we were in the final year getting ready for the final examination and could not cater for a baby.
Despite her sound religious background, she did not object to my proposal and we aborted the pregnancy, though we were not happy.
Luckily, we completed successfully and l was able to secure a job after the mandatory National Service. She is yet to be employed and we have maintained the friendship till now.
Unfortunately, l am torn between her and another lady l came across in my office whose character has appealed to me and l would like to marry her instead of my former girlfriend.
What do you have to say about my decision?
Paul, Accra.
Dear Paul,
You have been in a relationship with this lady from the time you were in the university and have admitted that you went through interesting moments and took unfavourable decisions. The decision, I believe was to safeguard your interest and protect your future.
Having come this far, it will be inappropriate for you to snub this lady and marry a- new-found lover.
Abortion has rendered some women barren for life and they will continue to blame themselves for their inability to reject the decision to abort.
Should this first lady become barren, you will not know peace in your marriage and she willnot also be happy.
But if you marry her, both of you can device an alternative means of solving the problem.
Since two persons cannot be the same, try to tolerate your first lover and marry her.
Obaa Yaa
I am in love with a married man
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 27- year- old lady who has fallen in love with a married man. I met this man on a business trip in koforidua of the Eastern Region.
I fell for him at first sight, though I knew he was married because he had a ring on his finger.
He took my number and started calling to check up on me. He is super nice, caring, soft spoken and gentle.
I began to develop feelings for him because he had all the qualities I needed in a man. He proposed to me and I accepted it.
Even though I knew he was married, it didn’t stop me from dating him. We started dating and he has been very supportive and loving.
I am madly in love with him that I wish he wasn’t married, yet I do not also want to break his home. I am doing everything possible to help him hide this affair from his wife.
I am not happy dating a married man but I love him. Please what should I do?
Worried lady, Alajo.
Dear worried lady,
I an happy you said you didn’t want to break someone’s home in the first place. It is rather unfortunate you have fallen in love with a married man.
You are a very beautiful young lady and everyman will be willing to settle down with a young lady.
Try as much as possible to avoid his calls and stay away from him.
Stay away from his lane and be careful. Mind you, you are a woman and there is Karma.
Obaa Yaa
My wife feeds me with her sugar daddy’s money
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am married to a beautiful young lady who is really very industrious. I lost my job recently and this woman has been taking care of me.
However, my friends keep telling me that she has a sugar daddy who gives her money.
I am inclined to believe this because the kind of money she brings home is far more than her pay as a typist.
The taught of this is even killing me softly. I don’t want to investigate this allegation because I am afraid of what I may see.
I love her so much. What should I do?
Nene,Odumase.
Dear Nene
You must act like a man. A man who loves his wife cannot allow another man to have her no matter their circumstance. The fact that you have lost your job doesn’t mean you should sell your dignity and integrity.
Be bold and confront your wife about the stories you are hearing about this sugar daddy stuff. You better stop her and the money she has been bringing home for your upkeep, or else she might also be bringing it for your obituary.
Investigate the stories and take steps to stop her from this adulterous behaviour on her part.
Make sure you get a job and be the man you are supposed to be.
