Pastors take too much money from members

Dear Obaa Yaa,

A FRIEND invited me to his church a few weeks ago and I was embarrassed at the way the priest demanded money from the congregation.

Will God bless such offerings extracted from church goers?

Etornam,

Volta Region.

Dear Etornam,

It is true that some churches demand money from their congregation. But it is also a fact that some of these churches uses these funds to build proper places of worship.

Utilities like water and electricity bills plus certain allowances or salaries of full –time workers in the church are also settled with this money.

Indeed if these money is put to proper use, it will enhance God’s work, and contributors would be blessed.

But if the money is misused, the people may think they are deceiving the congregation, but they cannot deceive God.

I can’t make a choice

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am a 40-year old banker and doing so well financially. I have a side business and I own two houses at Adenta. I have two girls in my life and I value each one for who they are. I want to settle down this year but I’m finding it difficult to make a choice.

One is financially stable, hardworking but disrespectful. The other is jobless, obedient and dull.

I love both of them and I am finding it difficult to choose. Should I marry one and keep one as a friend or I should leave them all.

They are all very beautiful. I am confused.

Kwansima,

Elmina.

Dear

I don’t believe that you are serious about marriage. I strongly believe you don’t love both of them, because you will never have a second thought when you love someone.

Also, I don’t believe that the girls are as daft as you want to portray.

For instance, what makes you think they are yours to pick and choose what roles they should play?

You are old enough to know what you want and what will be best for you. In as much as the ladies are pretty, each of them have different qualities you also want.

If I were you, I would propose and find out which of the girls would have you.

Obaa Yaa

They get on my nerves

Dear Obaa Yaa,

Both my wife and I are middle school leavers, but because her brothers are overseas, she goes abroad regularly. Because of that she has joined a certain class of people who believe that my wife is better educated than I am and therefore, look down on me.

The way she sometimes communicates with me is so annoying and makes me feel sad.

I overheard one of them asking my wife how she could marry an illiterate like me, and surprisingly she laughed at it as if it was a huge joke. When I confronted my wife afterwards, she denied everything.

I don’t want to divorce my wife, but her friends get on my nerves.

Please advise me.

Kwaku Teye, Konogo

Dear Kwaku Teye,

The current state of your wife is making her feel she is better than you. I can imagine how you feel. It is not fair for your wife to encourage her friends to make derogatory remarks about you.

However, do not make an issue out of it, especially as your wife has denied it.

I will advise you to talk to your wife to stay away from her friends if she really needs her marriage.

I will also plead with you to further your education if you have the means and resources.