Fruitful Living
Polygamy in Islam
Alhamdulillah, all praise is due to Allah, Who has blessed us with guidance in every aspect of our lives, including marriage.
We thank Him for providing us with a system that upholds fairness, justice, and compassion.
We send blessings upon our beloved Prophet Muhammad (PBUH), who exemplified love, patience, and justice in his family life. May Sallah (SWT) enable us to follow his example in all our relationships.
Introduction to Polygamy in Islam
Servants of Allah, today’s khutbah is on Polygamy in Islam – a topic often misunderstood but rich in wisdom and compassion when viewed through the lens of Islamic teachings. Polygamy in Islam is not a mere cultural practice; it is a regulated structure rooted in social responsibility and fairness.
The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) himself practiced polygamy under divine instruction, setting an example of responsibility and compassion. Through polygamy, Islam offers solutions to social needs and supports a framework that prioritises justice.
Today, we will explore what Islam says about polygamy, the conditions attached, the responsibilities of the husband, the blessings it brings, and the challenges it may entail.
What does Islam say about Polygamy?
Polygamy is permissible in Islam under specific guidelines aimed at ensuring fairness and justice. Allah (SWT) says in the Qur’an:
“Then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one…” (Qur’an 4:3).
This verse clearly places conditions on the practice of polygamy, allowing it only if the husband can be just and fair. Polygamy is therefore not a right but a responsibility that requires honesty and commitment.
Islam’s allowance for polygamy provides a solution to social circumstances such as caring for widows, orphans, and cases where multiple marriages serve the greater welfare of the community.
The Example of the Prophet (PBUH):
The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) practiced polygamy later in his life, and his marriages were largely motivated by social and humanitarian reasons. He married widows, older women, and women who had been previously divorced to provide them with protection, social standing, and support.
His actions illustrate the spirit of compassion and responsibility that underpins polygamy in Islam.
One notable marriage was to Sawda bint Zam’a (RA), an older widow. This marriage provided her with security and respect, highlighting the Prophet’s (PBUH) empathy and commitment to supporting women who were vulnerable or marginalised in society.
References:
• Qur’an, Surah An-Nisa (4:3, 4:34, 4:129), Surah Al-Baqarah (2:83)
• Hadith from Sahih Bukhari, Sahih Muslim, Sunan Abu Dawud (2133), Sunan Tirmidhi (3895)
(To be continued)
By Imam Alhaji Saeed Abdulai, 1BN – Michel Camp
Fruitful Living
Polygamy in Islam (Part 2)
CONDITIONS for Polygamy in Islam
Islamic law sets forth clear conditions that must be met for polygamy to be practiced. These conditions aim to protect the rights and wellbeing of all involved.
Justice among wives: The foremost requirement is that a husband must be able to treat each wife with fairness and justice. Allah (SWT) warns:
“But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one…” (Qur’an 4:3).
Justice here encompasses equal financial provision, time, and emotional support. The Prophet (PBUH) said, “Whoever has two wives and inclines entirely towards one of them, he will come on the Day of Resurrection with half of his body leaning” (Abu Dawud, 2133).
This Hadith underscores the importance of avoiding favouritism, highlighting the weight of responsibility a man assumes in a polygamous marriage.
Financial capability: A husband must possess the means to adequately support each wife. Allah (SWT) states in the Qur’an:
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has made one of them to excel the other and because they spend out of their property…” (Qur’an 4:34).
Financial capability is essential to ensure that all wives and children are properly cared for.
Creating an environment of mutual respect and consent: While not obligatory, it is encouraged for the husband to seek the consent of his first wife before entering into a new marriage. The example of the Prophet (PBUH) shows that he would always be open and communicative, addressing his wives’ concerns and upholding respect among them.
Responsibility of a Husband in a Polygamous Marriage
A husband in a polygamous marriage has immense responsibility, which requires wisdom, patience, and faith.
Providing equal time and resources: Each wife is entitled to equal time, material provision, and attention. The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) would allocate his time fairly, ensuring that each wife felt valued and respected.
Aisha (RA) narrated that he would seek permission before spending extra time with any wife, even in times of illness, to demonstrate his commitment to fairness.
Upholding good character and compassion: The Prophet (PBUH) emphasised kindness, saying, “The best of you are those who are best to their families” (Tirmidhi, 3895). A husband in a polygamous marriage must strive to uphold this ideal by displaying kindness and understanding toward all his wives.
Example of the Sahaba: The companions of the Prophet (PBUH) also practiced polygamy with compassion and integrity. Many of the Sahaba married multiple wives, ensuring that each of their wives was cared for, both financially and emotionally. Their approach reflected their commitment to fulfilling their responsibilities fairly, following the example of the Prophet (PBUH).
(…To be continued)
By Imam Alhaji Saeed Abdulai, 1BN – Michel Camp
Fruitful Living
Cultivating and maintaining Godly relationships (Part 1)
“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”– John 13:34-35 (NIV)
FROM the very beginning, God designed us not to walk through life alone, but to be connected—first to Him, and then to one another. Relationships are the framework of our existence, and the quality of these relationships directly impacts our spiritual, emotional, and even physical wellbeing. But in a world that often distorts the meaning of true connection, we face a challenge: How do we build and maintain relationships that reflect God’s heart?
Today, we will explore the concept of Godly relationships—what they are, why they matter, and how we can cultivate and sustain them in every area of our lives. Whether in friendships, family ties, professional circles, or mentorships, our relationships are meant to be living testimonies of God’s love and grace. As followers of Christ, we are called to live in a way that sets us apart, and one of the clearest ways we can do that is through how we relate to others. Jesus Himself said that it is by our love for one another that the world will know we are His disciples (John 13:35).
WHAT GODLY RELATIONSHIPS MEAN
Godly relationships go beyond surface connections; they are rooted in;
•love,
•service,
•forgiveness,
•and the desire to see others grow in their relationship with God.
Relationships, in all their forms, are central to the human experience. Whether within the family, friendships, work relationships, or romantic partnerships, how we connect with others reveals much about who we are and what we value.
For believers in Christ, relationships are not merely social contracts or exchanges of convenience; they are divine assignments—opportunities to manifest God’s love and character to a world in desperate need of true connection.
Godly relationships are built on;
•Love,
•Trust,
•Integrity,
•and Purpose.
They reflect God’s nature and bring healing, encouragement, and accountability. More importantly, they demonstrate to the world the essence of God’s kingdom, where love, humility, and service to others are paramount. Cultivating and maintaining such relationships is a lifelong endeavour that requires wisdom, patience, and reliance on God’s grace.
The Foundation of Godly Relationships
I want us to dive into several key points that will help us understand what godly relationships look like and how we can nurture them.
1. Godly Relationships Are Founded on Christlike Love
The first and most important point is that Godly relationships are rooted in Christlike love. This is the foundation upon which all other aspects of a relationship are built. When we talk about Christlike love, we refer to the sacrificial, selfless love that Jesus demonstrated. It’s a love that goes beyond emotions and convenience—it is a commitment to care for others even when it’s difficult.
Jesus said in John 13:34- 35, “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.” Christlike love is our testimony to the world. People don’t just see our faith by what we say, but by how we love.
This love is patient, kind, forgiving, and always seeks the good of the other person, as outlined in 1 Corinthians 13.
- By Rev. Dr Joyce Aryee, the author
