Obaa Yaa
Pregnant for married boyfriend
Dear ObaaYaa,
We have been good friends for a couple of years and our friendship resulted in intimate activities through which l became pregnant.
Throughout our friendship, he kept postponing my request to know his parents, though l know two of his siblings.
Over the years, he promised to marry me and crown our marriage with a wedding.
Now that l am pregnant, heartbreaking revelations are springing up each day. I am surprised to learn that he has a wife and a child in his village.
This discovery has made me to be ashamed of myself, left me confused and l am angry with this gentleman who has made my life miserable.
The predicament in which l find myself makes me feel sick because my mother warned me not to have anything to do with a married man since such relationships are fraught with problems and disgrace.
Should l abort the pregnancy or what?
Ama, Nsawam.
Dear Ama,
You should have listened to the passionate advice of your mother to chart a straight path in life but it is unfortunate you did the contrary.
Now that the harm has been done, you have to plead with your parents to forgive your refusal to listen to them.
Two wrongs do not make a right so forget about aborting the pregnancy and liaise with the gentleman to take care of you through your pregnancy till the time you are delivered of the baby.
Having gone through this turbulent period successfully, make sure you do not fall into the same problem again.
Obaa Yaa
I am in love with a married man
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 27- year- old lady who has fallen in love with a married man. I met this man on a business trip in koforidua of the Eastern Region.
I fell for him at first sight, though I knew he was married because he had a ring on his finger.
He took my number and started calling to check up on me. He is super nice, caring, soft spoken and gentle.
I began to develop feelings for him because he had all the qualities I needed in a man. He proposed to me and I accepted it.
Even though I knew he was married, it didn’t stop me from dating him. We started dating and he has been very supportive and loving.
I am madly in love with him that I wish he wasn’t married, yet I do not also want to break his home. I am doing everything possible to help him hide this affair from his wife.
I am not happy dating a married man but I love him. Please what should I do?
Worried lady, Alajo.
Dear worried lady,
I an happy you said you didn’t want to break someone’s home in the first place. It is rather unfortunate you have fallen in love with a married man.
You are a very beautiful young lady and everyman will be willing to settle down with a young lady.
Try as much as possible to avoid his calls and stay away from him.
Stay away from his lane and be careful. Mind you, you are a woman and there is Karma.
Obaa Yaa
My wife feeds me with her sugar daddy’s money
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am married to a beautiful young lady who is really very industrious. I lost my job recently and this woman has been taking care of me.
However, my friends keep telling me that she has a sugar daddy who gives her money.
I am inclined to believe this because the kind of money she brings home is far more than her pay as a typist.
The taught of this is even killing me softly. I don’t want to investigate this allegation because I am afraid of what I may see.
I love her so much. What should I do?
Nene,Odumase.
Dear Nene
You must act like a man. A man who loves his wife cannot allow another man to have her no matter their circumstance. The fact that you have lost your job doesn’t mean you should sell your dignity and integrity.
Be bold and confront your wife about the stories you are hearing about this sugar daddy stuff. You better stop her and the money she has been bringing home for your upkeep, or else she might also be bringing it for your obituary.
Investigate the stories and take steps to stop her from this adulterous behaviour on her part.
Make sure you get a job and be the man you are supposed to be.
