Obaa Yaa
She cannot keep secret
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I confided in a lady friend and narrated most of the challenges I was having in my relationship with her. Surprisingly, what I thought I was sharing in confidence is now the talk of town.
I have regretted sharing my concerns with her.
Quite recently, she did a similar thing to a friend who did not take kindly to it at all.
Now she is in trouble and I have to come in to settle the issue.
She is a good friend though but the only issue I have with her is her inability to keep secrets.
How do I help her to overcome this habit?
Stevo, Tema.
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Dear Stevo,
In the first place for how long have you known your said friend? Whether it has been long or quite recently, at least you should have studied her well enough before confiding in her.
Anyway, you have learnt your lesson and I hope next time you will see before you leap.
She has demonstrated that she cannot be trusted so you should be able to set a limit to the kind of conversations you have with her.
In order for her to overcome this habit without embarrassing herself, I suggest you have a talk with her on the need to control her tongue and also learn to appreciate the trust and confidence people repose in her.
Obaa Yaa
He left a note in his brief case
Dear Obaa Yaa,
When my father died, I was grief-stricken, I could hardly believe it. My other sisters and I were so surprised he didn’t tell us he was ill.
Growing up, my father was a very loving man and made sure his daughters were happy every time.
We were tidying up the room ahead of the one week funeral and found out a note in his bag telling us how he has been fighting silence battle concerning his health.
Obaa Yaa, why did my father not tell any of us that he was sick?
Esinam,
Gbawe.
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Dear Esinam,
I wonder why your father did that. We can only guess the reason, and I believe he wanted to hide it from you so as not to cause you distress, knowing that he was going to die, anyway.
You know, some fathers don’t want their children to share their suffering and pain, especially in cases of terminal illness. That might be your father’s reason.
The most important thing is that you should let bygones be bygones and give him a befitting burial.
This is the time your mother needs you most so try and give her the needed attention and support.
Obaa Yaa
I feed myself and pay my school fees
Dear Obaa Yaa
I AM a 16-year old girl and live with my mother and father at Osu. A lot of things goes through my mind because I wonder if they are my real parents because they don’t take care of me.
I pay my own fees and feed myself, and what annoys me most is that my father sometimes ask me for money.
They don’t even ask me where I get the money from. My parents are really irritating me with this attitude of theirs. Even though they are both unemployed, I don’t think it’s an excuse enough for them to neglect me.
Gloria,
Senya Beraku.
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Dear Gloria,
IF your parents are unemployed, they naturally cannot care for you exactly the way you want.
What you have to do is to pray that your parents gets something to do so that they can be in a position to care for you.
Meanwhile, try as much as possible not to ‘sell’ yourself to unscrupulous men just because your parents are not looking after you.
If you are not in school, that is if you are on vacation, try and do some trading so that you can earn some income for your upkeep until things improve.
As for your parents not asking you about the source of your money, I don’t believe you have to make any case out of it.
The most important thing to consider is that the source must be clean. Don’t get money out of immorality, and lose your life in the proces
