Obaa Yaa
She cannot keep secret
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I confided in a lady friend and narrated most of the challenges I was having in my relationship with her. Surprisingly, what I thought I was sharing in confidence is now the talk of town.
I have regretted sharing my concerns with her.
Quite recently, she did a similar thing to a friend who did not take kindly to it at all.
Now she is in trouble and I have to come in to settle the issue.
She is a good friend though but the only issue I have with her is her inability to keep secrets.
How do I help her to overcome this habit?
Stevo, Tema.
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Dear Stevo,
In the first place for how long have you known your said friend? Whether it has been long or quite recently, at least you should have studied her well enough before confiding in her.
Anyway, you have learnt your lesson and I hope next time you will see before you leap.
She has demonstrated that she cannot be trusted so you should be able to set a limit to the kind of conversations you have with her.
In order for her to overcome this habit without embarrassing herself, I suggest you have a talk with her on the need to control her tongue and also learn to appreciate the trust and confidence people repose in her.
Obaa Yaa
Can malt make me tall?
Dear Obaa Yaa, Can malt make me tall?
I am a boy of 16 years and I have a group of friends who are taller than me. They always mock me. They say that I am too short to be in their company.
They even tell me that I spoil their chances of meeting girls because the girls do not look at them when I am in their company.
Is there any medicine which makes people tall or any exercise which can make me tall?
Is it really true that malt can make people tall? My friends say that weightlifting can also help.
Oware
Accra.
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Dear Oware,
People who make you unhappy do not qualify to be called friends, and your first worry should be how to leave their company.
You are only 16 years, and there is still a great chance that you might add a few inches to your height.
But if it doesn’t happen, don’t let it be a problem because it not how tall or short a person is which matters, but what a person achieves.
There are no known drugs or drinks (Malt included) which can increase a person’s height.
Exercises and weightlifting will not make you tall, but they can at least make you fit and healthy.
Obaa Yaa
I want a divorce
Dear Obaa Yaa,
After two years of marriage, I have realised that I made a big mistake in marrying my wife. She has become very different from the woman I knew and married; she is so uncompromising.
I have met another girl who is just the type of girl I should have married. She agrees with me on everything and does not harass me the way my wife does.
My wife will not agree to a divorce and my girl refuses to be a second wife. I am caught in a dilemma, because both my wife and my girlfriend are making my life hell. I feel very tempted to leave them both.
Owusu,
Tafo.
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Dear Owusu
Maybe you should give your marriage another chance. For all you know, your wife is just as unhappy as you are but she is trying to live with the situation.
Your girlfriend’s attitude now is different from your wife’s and that should tell you that no one is perfect. It should also prove to you that when people are not happy, they behave differently.
Try and communicate with your wife more and discuss your problems no matter how little it might look.
If you make the effort to keep your marriage, you might be surprised at the positive changes that will take place in your life.
