Obaa Yaa
She is in love with another man
Dear Obaa Yaa,
l am a 29-year-old farmer and my lady is 25. We are in the third year of our relationship and we love each other dearly.
If l do not see her for hours in a day, l would take the pains to look for her. She cooks for me every day at her own expense, and buys many things for me, including some nice shirts.
She often accompanies me to places, provided she has time to spend.
My lady is a trader and l have given her a substantial capital to trade with.
The problem is that when l talk to her about marriage, she does not give me a favourable response. This gives me the impression that she is no longer interested to marry me.
My checks showed that another man had proposed to marry her and she did not deny it when l enquired from her.
I advised her to break up the relationship with the gentleman but there is evidence that she is still in close contact with him.
I am troubled as l do not want to lose this girl. What should l do?
John, Akuse
Dear John,
Love for the opposite sex should flow naturally, therefore, it is not advisable to force someone to marry you.
You must be commended for taking pains in supporting this lady to be financially independent.
The fact that she did not deny her relationship with the gentleman is an indication that she is taking time to make comparison between the two of you before making her final decision.
You have to check whether your behaviour is what this lady frowns upon or there is something about you that she detests.
If she has finally decided to opt for the gentleman, then quickly re-organise your life, take some time to get another lover who will love you to guarantee a blessed and peaceful marriage life in the future.
Obaa Yaa
Text message exposes my boyfriend
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My boyfriend told me he was attending the funeral of her late cousin outside Accra and promised to be back the next day.
Initially, the plan was that I would go with him and spend some time with his family since I have a good relationship with them.
I realised he was not comfortable about that and kept telling me that it’s a distant cousin and there was no to need join him.
He said he was going to park his car at the office and join a family bus.
My boyfriend picked a woman from Accra whom he had arranged with during the week.
I called her sister and she told me that his brother came with a lady and also secured themselves a hotel room.
Immediately he arrived, he went straight to the bath house, a lady sent a text message on his phone appreciating the good time they had together.
I read the message when he was having his bath.
Though her sister gave me every information but the text message confirmed everything.
How can he do such a thing? Why did he take another lady to the funeral and left me behind?
Abrefi, Tesano.
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Dear Abrefi,
I Understand how you are feeling at the moment because your boyfriend lied to you.
I advise you to confront your boyfriend on the allegations and let him know you have a proof.
He might be pissed off but that is exactly what you should do.
This will give you the opportunity to insist that you will attend all functions with him so that he will not have the opportunity to misbehave.
In confronting him, be calm. Don’t quarrel or nag.
Obaa Yaa
My boss is tormenting me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I have worked in a private environment in Accra for 10 years now. People talk about how stressful it is to work in a private sector but I did not believe it till I had my fair share of experience working with my new boss.
Recently, our boss was transferred and was replaced by a new boss.
In fact, I am finding it difficult to work with him.
Looking at my age, he talks to me like am a small boy and relates to me like a teacher and his pupil.
Sometimes, I feel like hitting him but it is against the rules of our company.
I currently do not have another employment opportunity. What can I do? I can’t cope with his behaviour anymore.
Joe Boy,
Ashiaman.
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Dear Joe Boy,
I am afraid you’d have to cope with your boss for the meantime. Learn to live with the ‘devil’ until you find a way about it.
Just live up to your responsibility; perform your functions to the best of your knowledge and do not misbehave towards him.
If he sees that you are competent, he would begin to respect you. Remember that respect is earned not demanded.
