She wants to marry an Octogenarian

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am an octogenarian living peacefully in my house in Accra after retiring from the civil service some years back.

I live alone because all my eight children are living abroad and remit me constantly.

A last born of a female classmate of mine called Grace, 36 years, and not married has been paying me frequent visits to my house to assist in washing my dishes.

But one day, she surprised me when she asked me to marry her.

Please what would my daughter say?

Is she interested in an octogenarian like me because my daughter send me lot of dollars every month?

Obaa Yaa, please advise me.

Old Boy, Accra.

Dear Old Boy,

I WOULDN’T know the real motive of the woman asking you to marry her, but it is not uncommon.

It might be that she has a genuine liking or feelings for you because of how you relate with her or how you have been kind to her.

It can also be a result of her ambition to inherit your fortune when you eventually pass away.

Personally, I do not think it is advisable for an octogenarian to marry again. What you need at this age is a good house-keeper to see to your food, clothes, bedding and the cleanliness of your home.

Be careful because she might be a gold digger and not a genuine lover

Pastors take too much money from members

Dear Obaa Yaa,

A FRIEND invited me to his church a few weeks ago and I was embarrassed at the way the priest demanded money from the congregation.

Will God bless such offerings extracted from church goers?

Etornam,

Volta Region.

Dear Etornam,

It is true that some churches demand money from their congregation. But it is also a fact that some of these churches uses these funds to build proper places of worship.

Utilities like water and electricity bills plus certain allowances or salaries of full –time workers in the church are also settled with this money.

Indeed if these money is put to proper use, it will enhance God’s work, and contributors would be blessed.

But if the money is misused, the people may think they are deceiving the congregation, but they cannot deceive God.

I can’t make a choice

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am a 40-year old banker and doing so well financially. I have a side business and I own two houses at Adenta. I have two girls in my life and I value each one for who they are. I want to settle down this year but I’m finding it difficult to make a choice.

One is financially stable, hardworking but disrespectful. The other is jobless, obedient and dull.

I love both of them and I am finding it difficult to choose. Should I marry one and keep one as a friend or I should leave them all.

They are all very beautiful. I am confused.

Kwansima,

Elmina.

Dear

I don’t believe that you are serious about marriage. I strongly believe you don’t love both of them, because you will never have a second thought when you love someone.

Also, I don’t believe that the girls are as daft as you want to portray.

For instance, what makes you think they are yours to pick and choose what roles they should play?

You are old enough to know what you want and what will be best for you. In as much as the ladies are pretty, each of them have different qualities you also want.

If I were you, I would propose and find out which of the girls would have you.