Obaa Yaa
Should I cancel the arrangement?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I met a young lady on Facebook recently. We exchanged contact and started dating. I have introduced her to my parents and have planned meeting her parents as well so we can make the necessary marriage arrangements.
We were having an online conversation about a week ago and I told her I needed to catch up with some business appointment so I would connect with her later. I tried reaching her later but I realised my number had been blocked.
She unblocked me subsequently and sent a long voice note that she was not interested in the marriage arrangements. She is a good woman with a good heart and I really love her. Should I tell my family what has happened so
Nana Kwame
Dear Nana Kwame,
Telling her you were going offline to attend a business meeting should not have incurred her ‘wrath’. There may be some other underlining factors why your girlfriend reacted the way she did. Try talking to her and resolve any issues there maybe. But if there is no problem at all and your girlfriend has only decided to be that rude towards you, then she may not be ready for marriage. Your family would understand when you decide not to go ahead with the marriage arrangement. If all avenues to get her back fail, letting her go could be the better option.
Obaa Yaa
He left a note in his brief case
Dear Obaa Yaa,
When my father died, I was grief-stricken, I could hardly believe it. My other sisters and I were so surprised he didn’t tell us he was ill.
Growing up, my father was a very loving man and made sure his daughters were happy every time.
We were tidying up the room ahead of the one week funeral and found out a note in his bag telling us how he has been fighting silence battle concerning his health.
Obaa Yaa, why did my father not tell any of us that he was sick?
Esinam,
Gbawe.
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Dear Esinam,
I wonder why your father did that. We can only guess the reason, and I believe he wanted to hide it from you so as not to cause you distress, knowing that he was going to die, anyway.
You know, some fathers don’t want their children to share their suffering and pain, especially in cases of terminal illness. That might be your father’s reason.
The most important thing is that you should let bygones be bygones and give him a befitting burial.
This is the time your mother needs you most so try and give her the needed attention and support.
Obaa Yaa
I feed myself and pay my school fees
Dear Obaa Yaa
I AM a 16-year old girl and live with my mother and father at Osu. A lot of things goes through my mind because I wonder if they are my real parents because they don’t take care of me.
I pay my own fees and feed myself, and what annoys me most is that my father sometimes ask me for money.
They don’t even ask me where I get the money from. My parents are really irritating me with this attitude of theirs. Even though they are both unemployed, I don’t think it’s an excuse enough for them to neglect me.
Gloria,
Senya Beraku.
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Dear Gloria,
IF your parents are unemployed, they naturally cannot care for you exactly the way you want.
What you have to do is to pray that your parents gets something to do so that they can be in a position to care for you.
Meanwhile, try as much as possible not to ‘sell’ yourself to unscrupulous men just because your parents are not looking after you.
If you are not in school, that is if you are on vacation, try and do some trading so that you can earn some income for your upkeep until things improve.
As for your parents not asking you about the source of your money, I don’t believe you have to make any case out of it.
The most important thing to consider is that the source must be clean. Don’t get money out of immorality, and lose your life in the proces