Obaa Yaa
Should l go into this marriage?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
We became friends after a strange encounter at a gathering when a lady collapsed and we assisted in rushing her to the hospital.
The promptness with which he came to the aid of the lady moved me and from that time, we called often to find out how the other person was doing. Our conversations centred on general welfare issues, old school pranks and anything conceivable that was of interest.
With time, our conversations changed to more intimate matters and l was not surprised when he proposed love to me.
l was initially hesitant to give an outright response since l did not know much about him.
I tried getting a little background information about him since it was suicidal to move into a relationship with next to nothing knowledge about a life-partner, but that was not possible.
Unfortunately, those who were close to him did not know him through and through and this made me to be worried.
Should l go into this marriage?
Mary, Akim Oda.
Dear Mary,
It is necessary and appropriate to step into an unknown future with much trepidation because life is full of uncertainties, surprises and challenges.
Though the description of how the two of you met is quite moving, you ought to be careful since some appearances could be deceptive. People were able to hide certain characteristics and secrets from their partners but this eventually got to the public domain.
You can get information from his close friends, those he works with and in his locality.
The decision you have taken is good though, there are instances one is not able to get any information to guide one’s decision. In such a case one has to accept the proposal and trust God that things will be good.
Obaa Yaa
Text message exposes my boyfriend
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My boyfriend told me he was attending the funeral of her late cousin outside Accra and promised to be back the next day.
Initially, the plan was that I would go with him and spend some time with his family since I have a good relationship with them.
I realised he was not comfortable about that and kept telling me that it’s a distant cousin and there was no to need join him.
He said he was going to park his car at the office and join a family bus.
My boyfriend picked a woman from Accra whom he had arranged with during the week.
I called her sister and she told me that his brother came with a lady and also secured themselves a hotel room.
Immediately he arrived, he went straight to the bath house, a lady sent a text message on his phone appreciating the good time they had together.
I read the message when he was having his bath.
Though her sister gave me every information but the text message confirmed everything.
How can he do such a thing? Why did he take another lady to the funeral and left me behind?
Abrefi, Tesano.
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Dear Abrefi,
I Understand how you are feeling at the moment because your boyfriend lied to you.
I advise you to confront your boyfriend on the allegations and let him know you have a proof.
He might be pissed off but that is exactly what you should do.
This will give you the opportunity to insist that you will attend all functions with him so that he will not have the opportunity to misbehave.
In confronting him, be calm. Don’t quarrel or nag.
Obaa Yaa
My boss is tormenting me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I have worked in a private environment in Accra for 10 years now. People talk about how stressful it is to work in a private sector but I did not believe it till I had my fair share of experience working with my new boss.
Recently, our boss was transferred and was replaced by a new boss.
In fact, I am finding it difficult to work with him.
Looking at my age, he talks to me like am a small boy and relates to me like a teacher and his pupil.
Sometimes, I feel like hitting him but it is against the rules of our company.
I currently do not have another employment opportunity. What can I do? I can’t cope with his behaviour anymore.
Joe Boy,
Ashiaman.
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Dear Joe Boy,
I am afraid you’d have to cope with your boss for the meantime. Learn to live with the ‘devil’ until you find a way about it.
Just live up to your responsibility; perform your functions to the best of your knowledge and do not misbehave towards him.
If he sees that you are competent, he would begin to respect you. Remember that respect is earned not demanded.
