Obaa Yaa
Terminate pregnancy or will not accept baby
Dear Obaa Yaa,
We became lovers after school and this gentleman promised to marry me. With time, l got pregnant but he insisted l should abort the pregnancy since he was unemployed.
l got rid of the pregnancy and this remained a secret between us.
After two years, l became pregnant again and my lover once more suggested that l should abort this second pregnancy which l refused.
He threatened to disown the child if l chose to maintain the pregnancy. l ignored his threats and informed my parents about the mess which l had caused.
Though l was abused and ridiculed, my parents later followed up to the gentleman’s parents who backed their son’s claims that he was not responsible for my pregnancy.
Enraged though, my father decided to accept the child as one of his children.
Having gone through embarrassment and mental agony, my child is doing well in school and this funny man is trying to claim the child.
l have decided not to mind him. Have l taken the right decision?
Marian, Accra.
Dear Marian,
You must be commended for the bold decision you took under this trying conditions. Your parents must also be commended for standing by you to overcome this problem.
The possibility of becoming barren after the second abortion was great, hence your decision was appropriate.
You must ignore this gentleman but if he still insists, your parents should go to court and stop him from harassing you.
Secondly, your parents should calculate the expenditure they had made on you from the time you became pregnant through to the time you were delivered of the child and what you had spent to look after the child and ask the man to pay it all off.
Obaa Yaa
Pastors take too much money from members
Dear Obaa Yaa,
A FRIEND invited me to his church a few weeks ago and I was embarrassed at the way the priest demanded money from the congregation.
Will God bless such offerings extracted from church goers?
Etornam,
Volta Region.
Dear Etornam,
It is true that some churches demand money from their congregation. But it is also a fact that some of these churches uses these funds to build proper places of worship.
Utilities like water and electricity bills plus certain allowances or salaries of full –time workers in the church are also settled with this money.
Indeed if these money is put to proper use, it will enhance God’s work, and contributors would be blessed.
But if the money is misused, the people may think they are deceiving the congregation, but they cannot deceive God.
Obaa Yaa
I can’t make a choice
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 40-year old banker and doing so well financially. I have a side business and I own two houses at Adenta. I have two girls in my life and I value each one for who they are. I want to settle down this year but I’m finding it difficult to make a choice.
One is financially stable, hardworking but disrespectful. The other is jobless, obedient and dull.
I love both of them and I am finding it difficult to choose. Should I marry one and keep one as a friend or I should leave them all.
They are all very beautiful. I am confused.
Kwansima,
Elmina.
Dear
I don’t believe that you are serious about marriage. I strongly believe you don’t love both of them, because you will never have a second thought when you love someone.
Also, I don’t believe that the girls are as daft as you want to portray.
For instance, what makes you think they are yours to pick and choose what roles they should play?
You are old enough to know what you want and what will be best for you. In as much as the ladies are pretty, each of them have different qualities you also want.
If I were you, I would propose and find out which of the girls would have you.
