The maid is one hell of a pretender

Dear Obaa Yaa,

My house help is 16 years of age. She has been living with me for the past seven months.

Obaa Yaa, I have virtually lived with her like my sister but she is too much of a pretender and she is forgetful as well.

When I am around, she would try to do everything correctly and play with the kids but when I am not, she does not do all these things.

I have spoken to her a number of times but change is not showing in her character.

Obaa Yaa, are my children safe with her? What should I do?

Mama Jane,

Dansoman, Accra.

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Dear Mama Jane,

I am afraid your children cannot be safe in the hands of a pretender who is also forgetful.

Why don’t you get another maid once the one you have is not prepared to change?

Get someone with a better sense of duty and responsibility and then you can have your peace of mind whenever you are not home.

And remember, the earlier, the better.

Can malt make me tall?

Dear Obaa Yaa, Can malt make me tall?

I am a boy of 16 years and I have a group of friends who are taller than me. They always mock me. They say that I am too short to be in their company.

They even tell me that I spoil their chances of meeting girls because the girls do not look at them when I am in their company.

Is there any medicine which makes people tall or any exercise which can make me tall?

Is it really true that malt can make people tall? My friends say that weightlifting can also help.

Oware

Accra.

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Dear Oware,

People who make you unhappy do not qualify to be called friends, and your first worry should be how to leave their company.

You are only 16 years, and there is still a great chance that you might add a few inches to your height.

But if it doesn’t happen, don’t let it be a problem because it not how tall or short a person is which matters, but what a person achieves.

There are no known drugs or drinks (Malt included) which can increase a person’s height.

Exercises and weightlifting will not make you tall, but they can at least make you fit and healthy.

I want a divorce

Dear Obaa Yaa,

After two years of marriage, I have realised that I made a big mistake in marrying my wife. She has become very different from the woman I knew and married; she is so uncompromising.

I have met another girl who is just the type of girl I should have married. She agrees with me on everything and does not harass me the way my wife does.

My wife will not agree to a divorce and my girl refuses to be a second wife. I am caught in a dilemma, because both my wife and my girlfriend are making my life hell. I feel very tempted to leave them both.

Owusu,

Tafo.

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Dear Owusu

Maybe you should give your marriage another chance. For all you know, your wife is just as unhappy as you are but she is trying to live with the situation.

Your girlfriend’s attitude now is different from your wife’s and that should tell you that no one is perfect. It should also prove to you that when people are not happy, they behave differently.

Try and communicate with your wife more and discuss your problems no matter how little it might look.

If you make the effort to keep your marriage, you might be surprised at the positive changes that will take place in your life.