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Under pressure from family to marry

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am 38 and single. In spite of the pressure I receive from my mother, I have decided not to marry now until I am financially sound.

It is this same mother of mine who would keep asking me for things even when I am married.

Obaa Yaa, recently my mother actually came to my house with a 10 member delegation from my hometown in the Ashanti Region at dawn.

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Their mission was to give me two weeks ultimatum to marry or else they would bring me a wife from the village.

Obaa Yaa, please what should I do?

Akwasi.

Dear Akwasi,

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MARRIAGE is not a child’s play. I understand the fact that you want to be financially sound to decide on marriage.

You are not getting younger so try to give ear to what your mother is saying.

No one can force you to marry against your will. Get to your mother with a respectable elder and let her know that she is embarrassing you with her unwarranted demands.

Assure her that in your own good time, you would get married and that you are not prepared to accept any imposition.

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Obaa Yaa

 My mum is always shouting at me

 Dear Obaa Yaa,

I AM an 18 year-old boy who has lost interest in education fol­lowing my failure to live up to expectation while in school.

As a result, I have quit school and that has made my mother the saddest woman of this earth.

She has invested so much in my education all by herself and the support of some of my relatives since my father failed to support my education and care for me from infancy.

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My mother shouts at me in any conversation and tells me how I want to make her life miserable by not going to school.

I want to learn a trade instead because I am struggling with school.

Odame, Konongo.

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Dear Odame,

I believe your mother did all she could to make life easier by giv­ing you the best of education.

If you knew you had no inter­est in what you were doing, you could have alerted her earlier.

I am happy you have admitted that your conduct is disturbing your mother and making her unhappy.

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If she is willing to continue supporting you, try and go back to school.

You can still go back to school and learn a trade.

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Obaa Yaa

He is taking advantage of me

 Dear Obaa Yaa,

I entered into a relationship with a young man when I was at the Univer­sity. We completed not quite long ago and planned to get married.

However, I find my man’s behaviour very strange.

For the past two years that we have been together, my man has not taken me to his house or introduced me to any of his family members.

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I am not convinced about the future of this relationship.

Oforiwaa, Lashibi

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Dear Oforiwaa,

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If the man doesn’t want to introduce you to his family members, then he’s obviously not in love with you.

He has no plans to have any serious relationship with you in future although he might have promised you that.

Whatever he might have told you is perhaps to get you into his bed.

I guess you stated it right. This man might be fooling you. So don’t let him take you for granted.

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