Obaa Yaa
Who is telling the truth?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
We have been in a relationship for some years now and planning to get married pretty soon.
However, certain developments are quite disturbing and could end our relationship on a bad note.
My girlfriend had complained to me that my best friend had attempted to have an affair with her. But my friend also informed me that my girl friend has a secret lover who has been meeting her occasionally.
I am disturbed about these pieces of information and do not know the appropriate step to take and who to believe.
I enquired from my girl friend to find out the veracity of the information l had received about her but she has ever since denied indulging in an extra relationship.
Since such issues have the potential to ruin our relationship, what should l do?
Daniel, Dodowa.
Dear Daniel,
I can envisage the situation you find yourself and how confused you may be. This is a serious issue which must be handled with tact and diplomacy.
You have to undertake thorough investigation into the conduct of the two individuals to find out the truth surrounding their claims and who is playing the mischief in this instance.
If your friend’s assertion is true, then it means he has identified your lady as someone who has the tendency to give in easily, hence his decision to take advantage of her.
Marriage should be based on trust and mutual respect for each other since it is a life-long process. That is why you have to study each other very well before you finally tie the knot to start this journey.
Obaa Yaa
Text message exposes my boyfriend
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My boyfriend told me he was attending the funeral of her late cousin outside Accra and promised to be back the next day.
Initially, the plan was that I would go with him and spend some time with his family since I have a good relationship with them.
I realised he was not comfortable about that and kept telling me that it’s a distant cousin and there was no to need join him.
He said he was going to park his car at the office and join a family bus.
My boyfriend picked a woman from Accra whom he had arranged with during the week.
I called her sister and she told me that his brother came with a lady and also secured themselves a hotel room.
Immediately he arrived, he went straight to the bath house, a lady sent a text message on his phone appreciating the good time they had together.
I read the message when he was having his bath.
Though her sister gave me every information but the text message confirmed everything.
How can he do such a thing? Why did he take another lady to the funeral and left me behind?
Abrefi, Tesano.
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Dear Abrefi,
I Understand how you are feeling at the moment because your boyfriend lied to you.
I advise you to confront your boyfriend on the allegations and let him know you have a proof.
He might be pissed off but that is exactly what you should do.
This will give you the opportunity to insist that you will attend all functions with him so that he will not have the opportunity to misbehave.
In confronting him, be calm. Don’t quarrel or nag.
Obaa Yaa
My boss is tormenting me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I have worked in a private environment in Accra for 10 years now. People talk about how stressful it is to work in a private sector but I did not believe it till I had my fair share of experience working with my new boss.
Recently, our boss was transferred and was replaced by a new boss.
In fact, I am finding it difficult to work with him.
Looking at my age, he talks to me like am a small boy and relates to me like a teacher and his pupil.
Sometimes, I feel like hitting him but it is against the rules of our company.
I currently do not have another employment opportunity. What can I do? I can’t cope with his behaviour anymore.
Joe Boy,
Ashiaman.
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Dear Joe Boy,
I am afraid you’d have to cope with your boss for the meantime. Learn to live with the ‘devil’ until you find a way about it.
Just live up to your responsibility; perform your functions to the best of your knowledge and do not misbehave towards him.
If he sees that you are competent, he would begin to respect you. Remember that respect is earned not demanded.
