Obaa Yaa
Will you accept 26 years difference for couple?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
When l first heard that an elderly man was dating my best friend, l did not believe it, considering the sort of person she is and the ideals she stands for in life.
However, l was faced with realities when l met the two of them in town, apparently they came to purchase a few items. I took the opportunity and pressed to hear from the horse’s own mouth and she did not feel shy to confirm it.
The age difference of the two of them is about 26 years and she did not find anything wrong with that. In my conversation with her, she told me that though the age difference was that much, she loved her husband despite the fact that he had four grown-up children, she was prepared to face the daunting challenge and manage them no matter the problems they posed.
She said the husband was very sick when she met him but through her tender care, she was able to help him to recover within a short time for which the man remains grateful.
Will this relationship last considering the age difference?
Beatrice
Dear Beatrice,
Each person has a unique character and if well projected and utilised will enable that individual to attain great heights in society. This unique character is being displayed to perfection by your friend.
Your friend might have developed some special love and care for the husband, and being a fountain of love for the husband, this might have resuscitated him.
Care for the elderly is one of the greatest ‘medicines’ the healthy and energetic relatives ought to give them.
Many people who had no specific care and for that matter were left unaided died as a result. Their lives could have been prolonged if they had people around them to provide for their basic needs.
Obaa Yaa
Text message exposes my boyfriend
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My boyfriend told me he was attending the funeral of her late cousin outside Accra and promised to be back the next day.
Initially, the plan was that I would go with him and spend some time with his family since I have a good relationship with them.
I realised he was not comfortable about that and kept telling me that it’s a distant cousin and there was no to need join him.
He said he was going to park his car at the office and join a family bus.
My boyfriend picked a woman from Accra whom he had arranged with during the week.
I called her sister and she told me that his brother came with a lady and also secured themselves a hotel room.
Immediately he arrived, he went straight to the bath house, a lady sent a text message on his phone appreciating the good time they had together.
I read the message when he was having his bath.
Though her sister gave me every information but the text message confirmed everything.
How can he do such a thing? Why did he take another lady to the funeral and left me behind?
Abrefi, Tesano.
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Dear Abrefi,
I Understand how you are feeling at the moment because your boyfriend lied to you.
I advise you to confront your boyfriend on the allegations and let him know you have a proof.
He might be pissed off but that is exactly what you should do.
This will give you the opportunity to insist that you will attend all functions with him so that he will not have the opportunity to misbehave.
In confronting him, be calm. Don’t quarrel or nag.
Obaa Yaa
My boss is tormenting me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I have worked in a private environment in Accra for 10 years now. People talk about how stressful it is to work in a private sector but I did not believe it till I had my fair share of experience working with my new boss.
Recently, our boss was transferred and was replaced by a new boss.
In fact, I am finding it difficult to work with him.
Looking at my age, he talks to me like am a small boy and relates to me like a teacher and his pupil.
Sometimes, I feel like hitting him but it is against the rules of our company.
I currently do not have another employment opportunity. What can I do? I can’t cope with his behaviour anymore.
Joe Boy,
Ashiaman.
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Dear Joe Boy,
I am afraid you’d have to cope with your boss for the meantime. Learn to live with the ‘devil’ until you find a way about it.
Just live up to your responsibility; perform your functions to the best of your knowledge and do not misbehave towards him.
If he sees that you are competent, he would begin to respect you. Remember that respect is earned not demanded.
