Obaa Yaa
I made a wrong choice
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I started dating a young man in my neighbourhood. Interestingly, I became pregnant for him, without knowing him better.
The moment I got pregnant, I told him to go and see my family and pay the bride price.
He did the needful and I was so happy that he made me proud.
It has been hell for me after the marriage ceremony. He has become very authoritative and abuses me verbally.
Anytime there is a disagreement between the two of us, he would embarrass me whether people were around or not and later apologise.
I have moved out from my matrimonial home but my parents are telling me to go back because he is still my wedded husband.
What should I do?
Baaba, Sunyani
Dear Baaba,
My advice is that you consider reuniting with your husband. Engage him in a one-on-one conversation, accompanied by prayers asking for divine intervention to change him into the partner you desire.
Additionally, seeking guidance from reputable counsellors who will provide valuable insights to solving this problem.
By combining open communication, prayers, and professional advice, you may discover the best approach to address the challenges in your marriage and find a path that brings fulfillment and understanding for both of you.
Obaa Yaa
He squats like a girl to urinate
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a single parent trying to raise my three children – two girls and a boy aged six, five and two.
I am not worried about money to take care for them because I am gainfully employed. The problem is that my little boy has not been urinating in the manner males do.
He has been squatting like how females do. I don’t know how to teach him since he does not allow me.
How do I handle such a situation?
Sandra, Sunyani.
Dear Freda,
Your boy is simply imitating his sisters and he is used to squatting while urinating.
This is not an issue you should be worried about. Continue to educate him that boys don’t squat; rather they stand and urinate.
When he grows up and sees his peers standing up to urinate, he’d learn to do the same.
Don’t get worried. Little kids change over time.
Obaa Yaa
Is he cheating on me?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My husband and I have been together for six years now. Recently when he came from town I asked him for money to buy something.
He directed me to bring the trousers but he later changed his mind and reached for the trousers himself.
Interestingly, I got the trousers first and when I removed his wallet, it came out together with a condom.
I asked him what he was doing with the condom because we don’t use it at home.
He told me to stop worrying him about it and never answered the question.
Esi Atta,
Krobo.
Dear Esi,
I AM afraid your husband might be cheating on you, but be thankful that he always has a condom in hand.
Try and discuss your fears with him and give him more attention.
Maybe he is not getting enough satisfaction at home and wants to go a bit extra-marital.
I hope you would not be too pissed off though. Take it cool, discuss the problem, and I believe that once he has been exposed, he would take steps to change.
But as I stated earlier, be thankful that he is a fan of condoms.
