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‘Don’t stigmatise childless couples’
After nine years of childlessness and depressing moments, a 40-year-old teacher, Sarfoa Kentimpo is overwhelmed with joy as she no longer suffers stigmatisation but is now a proud mother sharing her experiences with others.
Sharing the good, bad and ugly about the period of trying to conceive, with The Spectator she said that what she had desired and prayed about for so many years had finally come to pass after two miscarriages and the loss of a baby a few days after delivery through a caesarean section.
The 40-year-old mother said at a point, she was traumatised and feared whether she could conceive again and also carry it full-term without complications.
She said the stigmatisation was exhausting as some people thought it was her fault and constantly used abusive language on her, especially relatives whom she had expected to sympathise with her.
“At a point it looked like everyone had become a medical person prescribing local and orthodox medicine. Some even brought it and when I did not show interest in using it they said I was not serious. I have been through a lot,” she said with tears in her eyes.
She said she had spent much of her savings and time just to be a mother and nine years felt like eternity but was happy God had been faithful.
Ms Kentimpo encouraged all couples trying to conceive to be prayerful and also seek medical help because both was needed to make the dream of becoming a parent a reality.
She called on spouses to be supportive and avail themselves for medical attention while advising family members to be sensitive during such times.
She also called on spouses to defend their wives during what she described as the most vulnerable moment in their lives and protect them from attacks from in-laws who are not friendly because a good mental health was key to make conception a success.
The 40-year-old mother advised couples, especially the women to identify and engage in activities that made them happy and fulfilled to take their minds off the struggle to conceive.
“As for me, I realised that I got attracted to children so I spent more time with them and also provided some of their needs,” she disclosed.
From Dzifa Tetteh Tay, Tema