How do I convince my upset daughter

Dear Obaa Yaa,

Just before my husband’s trip, we tried to squeeze in a quick moment of intimacy. Our children were preoccupied – one was playing outside, and the other was napping.

We didn’t lock the door, thinking it would be a brief encounter. But our 12-year-old walked in on us, which was em­barrassing.

We immediately stopped and debated who should talk to her first. Meanwhile, my neighbour called, concerned that our daughter seemed upset after trying to talk to us but we were busy.

We had a heart-to-heart talk with her, explaining that our love for each other is natural. However, she didn’t respond and seemed distant.

Now, with my husband away, I feel uncomfortable around our daughter, who has become quiet and withdrawn.

Will things get better?

Asabea,

Takoradi.

Dear Asabea,

I SUGGEST you give your daugh­ter some time. It is natural for her to feel how she is feeling, especially if it’s her first time seeing such a thing.

It could be that she might be feeling guilty and traumatised for ruining your moments.

However, I will suggest you always lock your doors when you’re about to have an intima­cy.

Please teach your children how to respect privacy.

They should knock before entering other people’s rooms.